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writes:I had a massive argument with my boyfriend. Like a HUGE glass-throwing, wall-punching, screaming argument with him, and now that we have made up and are together again, I'm wondering whether I should be truthful with him, or just hide this secret so he doesn't get angry again.Basically, we went to this house party, I didn't know anyone there, and I was feeling pretty out of place, mainly because everyone else was spanish and I was english and couldn't really understand anything. So instead of joining in the party, i sat by the window and just drank a lot instead, and my boyfriend was already pissed off with me because he thinks the relationship between me and a guy-friend is suspicious, and it upsets him, because the guy-friend is also his good friend. I didn't really want to talk to him, so I went to the kitchen to have a smoke and make some friends whilst he went and danced with these girls. I felt bad so i went back with a beer to apologise for being so cold, but saw him kissing this other girl.So to get even, I went back to the kitchen and started bitching about him to all the boys in there, and started kissing one of them-- but we stopped pretty quickly because I felt really guilty and the boy told me, to go and "sort it out with my man" and led me to this quiet room, before he went and got my boyfriend to talk it out.So we did and had this massive argument, before I made up with him and decided to go home and sober up before I talked about it with him properly. He went home soon after with his cousin and the boy I kissed, but they got jumped on the way home and I never found out until he called me the next morning from the hospital.Then we had a really long conversation about my relationship with my guy-friend, and how he felt about it, and how i felt about the girl and are better now, but I haven't told him about the boy i kissed. The boy Ikissed also saved my boyfriend, when they all got into a fight on the way home from the party. They both got a bottle smashed into their faces, and Im wondering whether I should tell my boyfriend that I made out with him-- my boyfriend gets angry really quickly, he has a very short temper, and I don't want the other boy to get hurt.But at the same time I feel guilty, but I don't want to tell him, but I feel I should? I'm really torn and I don't want to ask any of my friends, because they are his friends as well. So should I tell him, or not?
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reader, kylieekristina  +, writes (23 May 2011):
 NO!!! do not tell him!!!! trust me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): You know i know you wont want to hear this but in my honest opinion i think you should break up. You guys are young dont get me wrong im only 22 but for him to be displaying that behavior hes not ready to be truly committed if hes doing that. But thats your choice. Just my opinion. I do think you should tell him though. The key to any relationship is trust and a way to get that is honesty. You have to be honest to your partner in any relationship.
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