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Should I try to explain all this or what??

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Question - (22 May 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 22 May 2011)
A female Austria age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I dated this guy for a month. He was the first to tell me he really liked me. We kissed and cuddeled, but never had sex. (He wanted us to wait also). He talked about future plans, and acted like he was interested in a relationship with me. We had a little disagreement one day. It was because he cancelled our plans, and couldnt tell when we could meet again (because of stress in school..he's in med-school). I got upset, and asked if he didnt want to see me (bacause it kind of felt that way),he said it wasnt because he didnt want to see me, but because of lack of time. Still I had the feeling that something could be wrong.. he even said I had to live my life and that I could date other boys.. not that hard to understand I got a little upset or what(?)

Anyway, I sent a text and apologized the next day. He didnt reply:( he didnt contact me for 1 1/2 week, even though he told me we should talk in the end of the week. I called him and he said we couldnt see eachother as other than friends anymore because he wasnt in love!!! I said i understood, but really I dont. He has been all over me and are very attracted to me, and very interested in me as a person, and we had such a great chemistry. we've only met ca 6 times, so how can he just blow it off now?!? Isn't that too sudden to tell wether hes in love or not. I know that he has only been with one girl, and that ended bad (for a year ago) but still... we used to be so in sync.. I feel he let it all go because of misunderstandings.. He wanted us to hang out and be friends, but we cant meet before after his exam (in 2 weeks), and I feel like I cant contact him either. What should I do? wait till exam is over, then contact him to ask if he wanna hang, and then take it from there? Have i right to be angry? I mean we had a great time on all of our dates, and suddenly he broke it of with that excuse..what do you think?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011):

But as I said; he still want us to hang out!! He says he loves hanging out with me, and he is very attracted to me. When we talked last time he said several times that he likes me very much (without me asking for him to say it) I find this very strange. Shouldnt he just hang out with me then..and see where it leads. Thats what IM thinking anyway. I'm not IN LOVE with him either. It's too early to say really,. But I know I like him very much, and want us to relax and see what happens.

Never told him this though. Just told him that I like him very much, both as a friend to hang out with, and that I also was attracted to him in a sexual way. What should I do???!? I can't contact him until his exams are over (in 2 weeks),and we have some kind of deal that we are going to meet in june after exams. I have the feeling that if he meet me again, everything will turn (last time we met everything got so wrong) so I really want this to happen. But will he forget me if I wait until after his exam to ask if we should hang as friends?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011):

Actually you should thank him for letting you go and not wasting months or years of your youth. It would have been selfish of him to stay with you knowing he was never going fall in love with you. Now you can move on and find a man who does love you and who wants to marry you. Most girls don't get so lucky and the guy strings them along and then breaks their heart knowing all along he was biding his time until he found someone else.

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