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writes:Last night I had gone out with my bf and our friends and all that and most people were pretty tipsy except for this one guy who doesn't drink or anything. My bf and I had this huge fight and we weren't talking at all. Later we were all sitting at a retaurant, eating and that guy (the one who doesn't drink) put his hand on my leg and kinda tried to feel me up under the table -- with his gf sitting right next to him! I tried to stop him but he kept trying and short of saying something to him and drawing everyone's attention to it I could not do much else. As soon as someone left another chair empty I went and sat away from him. The thing is this guy is a pretty good friend of ours but my bf was always a little wary of him. And he's actually in my boyfriend's circle of friends, not mine, so to speak. So should I tell my bf about this or should I talk to the guy? It's a very, very awkward situation for me and I just don't know how to handle it. I have always thought of him as someone I'm really close to and he's almost like a brother to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie +, writes (13 July 2008):
 I think you should tell him. If you don't you might look like it didn't really bother you. The other choice would be to tell the guy that if he ever tried that again you'd tell your boyfriend. He has to know it was not appreciated.
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reader, Swah  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 You have to ask yourself, if the roles were reversed, would you want to know? Of course.
It may leave him a little taken aback, but it's a display on your part of your trust and respect for your partner.
Unfortunately, this kind of thing can go badly from time to time... if he doubts you, or chooses to side with his friend.
No matter how he reacts though, you would be doing the right thing by informing him.
Best of luck to you.
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