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writes:help me and my boyfriend got together in march 08 we broke up in june and since then we keep getting back together but he keeps on breaking us uphe told me he still loves me and wants us to get back together again im not sure though i dont want us breakin up after a few weeks and have my heart broken again he is kind and funny and a great boyfriend but when something happenns he gets angry nd takes it out on me which ends us breaking up (again)shall i take him back?please help
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reader, maryjane +, writes (23 July 2008):
i'm goin through the same dilemma. my boyfriend is a few years younger than me.every relationship has its ups and downs but he doesn't seem to realise this. we do love each other and have been together for 3 years but for the last 4 months he was back and forth. on one occassion after a silly row he just wanted to move out without even giving our relationship a chance to grow. i let him moved in prior to this because he wanted us to live together and take it to the next level and i finally compromised as i thought it would be a great idea and i was ready to finally commit. i told him at first that it takes two to make a relationship to be a success and not everyday is rosy! now, he's gone again and and he has been crying and apologetic over the phone. he even threatend and blackmailed me! he's erratic and volatile and extremely immature in many ways. he said i made a huge impact in his life and he respects me more than his mum. fortunately, am a tough cookie and have been moving on. of course i miss him but he's not worth the time and effort. he has to grow up and realise that all i wanted was to take care and show him that he's cared for and loved. he may fall in love again but i doubt he will ever find the love and respect that i had for him. am seeing people again but i'm even more careful this time around. i've got great looks and have so much to give but i'll take my time and start enjoying myself again. there's no more dramas and that to me is great relief! i hope you will find the courage to move on. just give it time to heal. look after your best interests and if it helps, think of his bad traits that used to put you off when you were together! start having a laugh at them and this should hopefully stop you from missing him! it does help! if anything he's just insecure of losing you for good. do you wanna be with a loser all your life? be strong and in no time you'll be just fine my darling! they don't deseve us!
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reader, kurlyq2121  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I've had this happen to me. And i gave the guy way more chances than he deserved. It's been just recently we broke up and this time I've decided to never give him another chance. He said he loved me but I think he just misses the "thought" of me. But it was time for me to move on and it's time for you to move on too.
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reader, tierani417 +, writes (13 July 2008):
 i have dealed with the same exact problem for the last 6 month..My advice..No matter how much you still love him, you deserve better. I know it's kinda hard..But, its best..trust me..i'm not over him yet..but, as long as i dont think about him..im fine
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 i would say you're better off staying broken up. he is obviously way too immature to be in a relationship - after all you are both still children! relationships need communication, understanding and respect - none of which he has for you. and taking him back every time he comes running just makes him think that its ok to do this every time he gets pissed. he needs to grow up and realise that he cant act like a child with you. move on hun, this guy sounds like a waste of time. xxx
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 He sounds like a child and definitely, way too immature to take your relationship seriously if he breaks up with you every time you get in a fight instead of trying to work it out.
A relationship NEEDS communication and obviously you two don't have that. And I don't think it's your fault.
Don't take him back, wait until he grows up a little.
XO
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