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writes:So I slept in the same bed with two of my friends, one male and one female when I have a boyfriend. Nothing weird happened it was just a simple sleepover but I am worried that my boyfriend will be upset about it - even though they are both his friends too. What should I tell him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dear_Niecee +, writes (18 August 2012):
I think if your feel anxious then you should just mention casual that you had a sleep over. I do agree however that if in you are in relationship maybe you should share a bed with a guy.
if you do decide to tell him make sure you mention the other girl being there to. you have to ask your self if it will change anything?
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reader, sunilal  +, writes (18 August 2012):
Not sure how your boy friend takes it. But if there is a possibility for him to know it from other sources then it is really good you speak out. Find a right time and pop out the topic. Tell him what happened. He may ask why you did not choose to sleep in another room. Be strong at it give a valid reason and say him that you did not feel it bad and you did not have a bad intention.
For your relationship sake assure him that you will avoid such situations if he is strongly against it.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (18 August 2012):
 I wouldn't say anything...especially if it was completely innocent. All it will do is put doubts in your boyfriend's mind...particularly if he is a suspiscious-type.
However, at your age, it's about time to stop sharing beds with male friends. There really isn't any good reason for that. You are putting yourself in a position that could potentially cause you problems.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 August 2012):
 Honesty is always the best policy, but unless he is likely to hear about it, it may be best not to say anything. However, you say that they are also his friends, so he may be likely to hear something about that sleepover at some point. So, let me reconsider - I think that it may be better to tell him about it. The two friends can, and probably will, support you if they are good friends.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (18 August 2012):
Don't tell him if he doesn't ask. If you bring it up by yourself he may suspect there was more going on, so why would you? Besides, since it was completely innocent, you're not in any way obliged to tell him anything. I don't tell my bf all the details of sleepovers I had either; I'd bore him to death with them ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): Why say anything? If he trusts you and you trust yourself, then there should be no question in anyone's mind about it being just an innocent sleep over.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (18 August 2012):
 If it was completely innocent, why are you worrying? We don't know your boyfriend or your relationship enough to say anything. You haven't said whether he is layer back, jealous etc
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