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writes:ok, im only 14 but i like this boy who is 18, its really complicated because my mum is his boss and he has a gf, we text all the time and he seems to like me but not like i like him. should i forget about it and move on or still be friends and hope that one day he might see what i see in him? should i tell him how i feel? what do i do? is he too old or me anyway? help me!!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (5 September 2011):
 Ok, first things first: Yes he is too old for you. Having a relationship with you would be incredibly difficult for him, mostly because you are 2 years under the age of consent therefore nothing sexual could ever happen because it is illegal. So he could get into a lot of trouble by going out with you, so I doubt he would think it is worth the time and effort when he could end up in prison over a girl.
Secondly - your mum is his boss. He would never dare go out with you because of that! He would be scared to lose his job, especially because he is so much older than you the chances of that happening if your mum found out are pretty high. He wouldnt take the risk, simple as that.
Third - he already has a girlfriend, therefore he is not interested in you. He might be texting you to be polite, because your mum is his boss, because he thinks you are nice girl, because he sees you as a friend....but nothing more than that. If he is still with his girlfriend, then clearly he likes her and wants to be with her, so you dont have a chance there I'm afraid.
What you need to do is move on - this guy is unsuitable for you in so many ways, so let this one go and find a guy closer to your own age. There are lots of single, attractive guys out there, I'm sure you will find one soon who you like just as much as this boy. But this one is not right for you, I promise you that!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Narwal98  +, writes (5 September 2011):
He might be just as afraid of telling u how he feels. Alot of times when guys act confident they aren't about telling a girl what they think about her I'm a 13 year old guy so I would know
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (5 September 2011):
 I honestly think the first thing you should do is focus on your school. You're only 14 and this young man is 18 with a girlfriend. Forget the fact that your mom is his boss...that doesn't matter. He already has someone in his life...and you seem to bypass that fact...although you obviously know that he is not interested in you beyond a friendship. He is a very smart boy...statutory rape carries a prison sentence for a very long time.If I were you, I would immediately stop pursuing him, someone could mistake that for him pursuing you and he could lose his job, his girlfriend and his reputation. If you care for this young man at all, you will let him be and focus on your school work. You are FAR too young to be thinking about relationships. Enjoy your early teens...you'll never get that back.Aunty Ana
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