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writes:If a guy just wants to be friends with benefits, does that mean that he only finds you physically attractive, or could he possibly care about you too and like your personality, but just not want a serious relationship ?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): "does that mean that he only finds you physically attractive" No, it means he finds just attractive enough to have sex with but not attractive enough to be his girlfriend.
"could he possibly care about you too" No, not in the way you want him to, if he's already your friend he only cares about as a friend, not as a lover. If he's not really your friend already then he doesn't care about you at all, he just wants a warm hole to put his penis in, if he's not your friend already then all he wants is for you to be his human masturbation tool.
"but just not want a serious relationship?" Again no, that wouldn't matter if he liked you that way, it just wouldn't. When you like someone you don't just say FWB's, even if you don't want a serious relationship then you just say that but date anyway, take it slowly and casually. Having just sex isn't taking it slowly, it's not having a relationship at all.
Look FWB's doesn't work, the person suggesting it only suggests it because they would NEVER consider dating you. They don't see you as relationship material but you'll make a nice winter coat for their willy. Nobody ever suggests being just FWB's if their interested in someone or care about them in that way. Why would they it would make no sense, if you liked someone you'd ask them out otherwise what's the point?
Don't ever believe the serious relationship excuse ever! It never applies, it just means they would never consider a serious relationship with YOU! But as soon as a girl they would have one with then they end the FWB's, usually the girl then gets hurt because she thought she'd win him over by being his real flesh sex doll.
Don't ever do FWB's. One person always gets hurt and it's never the person that suggests it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 December 2010):
 To most guys the emphasis is on the "benefits" more than the "friends". Make sure you feel the same way or you are in for a world of hurt. FWB's are a crock if you ask me and the guy who came up with the idea AND managed to sell this to women must be kicking himself for not taking out a patent.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 It could be that:
A. He only finds you physically attractive, doesn't like your personality, but, hey, the sex can be good. If he doesn't like it, he can go away and become a friend, without the benefits.
B. He likes your personality, finds you physically attractive, and doesn't want a serious relationship. Yet he wants to have sex with you because that feels nice. No hard feelings.
C. He doesn't really care about you in the least but thinks you will make it easy for him to get sex, maybe while he finds someone else.
I think it is not in the woman's best interest to consent to friends with benefits. That might be just what you want at the time, however.
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