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writes:Gotta a quick question for anyone who wanta to send some advice overI havnt been in a relationship in over 2 years. It did last a year in a half. Im not ugly, in peak physical condition, i try to be the best i can be to all people yet no girl wants to look my way. Last time i truly had strong feelings for a girl she seemed to portray the same feelings back towards me. I ended up telling her my feelings for her some time ago and she kinda strugged them off and didnt say she had feelings back. We continued to talk a bit after that but i knew it wasnt the same. That girl is now in the same university program as me and we began talking again and my feelings for her have come back. I dont have the same confidence as i did before and i honestly dont know what to do. Do i try again or do i assume hope is lost because i failed once already.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 The first step is always the hardest. When you try to talk to her, ignore whatever walls of worry you encounter. Once you start talking to her, it only gets easier and your worries will subside. Instead of worrying about whether or not you will get hurt, remind yourself of the fruits of whatever strength you gather. What happens if everything does work out? When your relationship with her grows you will forget about your worries, you will remember this and forget why you were so worried in the first place. If you do get hurt, you can only rise back up and move on, it is not so bad. Your mind tends to make matters seem worse than the reality of things.
I hope that helps.
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reader, aavv +, writes (4 December 2010):
aavv is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the response, i appreciate it.
Only thing is now that im hesitant on spending as much time with her or trying to because im really worried that im gonna just get hurt in the end again. Got any advice on overcoming that nervous feeling and hesitations?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (4 December 2010):
Why not wait until you two get a little closer, when you get the feeling that she feels something for you, if you see her giving little hints that she likes you, then you tell her. Grow in friendship first and then see where it goes.
I hope that helps.
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