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writes:When you sleep with multiple fwbs do you tell them all about each other? I've heard ppl say of course you should let them all know about each other, but that just seems so awkward to me. And if it's fwb or F buddies then ppl automatically assume that you're sleeping with others at the same time right? That's what I always thought until I heard otherwise...Should I mention other ppl or not to partners? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. I can see why ppl would be worried about stds but if you're that concerned why are you in a FWB? I think I'll keep everything private.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 You are not making a commitment so it is up to you if you want to tell them or not, at the end of the day you are not doing anything wrong and it is your business, as long as you are being straight with them and telling them it is only sex then I wouldn't worry about giving them names off all the other partners. However do be careful with your sexual health, use protection and get regular check ups as condoms don't work for all STI's
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 April 2016):
 When (once) people commence "FWB" or "F-buddy" arrangements, then, usually, all ethical niceties are out the window.... so who cares if you (and partner) do (or, don't) reveal other goings-on to one-another?......
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2016): It's one thing to tell a partner that you "are not being exclusive with them" or that "its my business who else I might be with or not." It's another thing to tell them lies.
Keep your business to yourself if you want. Just don't lie to people.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (27 April 2016):
People make the rules up as they go along with FWB: I’ve become convinced of this over the years on this site. If it is really no-strings FWB, you don’t have to give details about any other partners or justify yourself in anyway. With that said, I do think you should tell the partner that you do have other partners: the more partners, the greater the risk to sexual health (his and yours). Likewise he should tell you if he is having sex with other people (if you don’t know, you can’t be sure he’s protecting himself properly either). Neither of you have any right to complain about it if you don’t like what you’ve been told. But it is not a good idea to have sex with some-one without knowing the facts.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 How many FWBs are we talking about here?
You can honest in that you have them, without getting into exact names and numbers. That way you satisfy the need for honesty without violating yours or anyone else's privacy.
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