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writes: I am 40 and decided to make contact with a guy who I recognised from many years ago, he replied and we got into text conversation with each other for a short time. However since I contacted him, the shop where I have seen him a lot, he has now stopped going to it. I know he hasn't moved because his son goes to a school in our village (he used to be at nursery with my son) and I drive past his car about twice a week as I go to work.I never expected to have such an adverse reaction on someone to the point that they no longer wanted to go into that shop in case I was around but he did text me once he stopped going there. Its made me think again about contacting someone like that again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2016): We've all been there. From your posts you sound like you really like him. Its ok to feel like that. Now you know hes being evasive, you can act accordingly. He may be in a relationship or between relationships. Dont put too much emphasis on what hes doing. Be kind to yourself now and mentally draw a line under it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 You have written about this man a few times already, more recently in February and March this year:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/his-comment-was-so-vague-how-do-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-was-he-happy-to-text-me-during.html
We can only base our opinions on what you have written to us, but have you considered the possibility that you have become a little fixated on trying to work out what his words and actions mean that he might perceive your behaviour as 'stalkerish"
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 I agree, you done nothing wrong, if he is avoiding you just because you contacted him well then he is being childish and overly sensitive, just delete him and don't worry about him, he is not worth it.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 Hi
I assume you were after more than friendship?
So he got scared for reasons you can't know maybe, or he has issues that for some reason have stopped him going to the shop, who knows??
It's nothing to do with you as a woman!
I gave a guy my number two weeks ago and have heard nothing.
So what??!
Don't let it knock your confidence, you gave it a go and that was the right thing to do.
Bet you see him tomorrow now lol ...good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2016): I agree with Honeypie. Do not feel bad at all. It shows a childishness in him not you. I think its quite a brave thing to do and was done with good intentions. In time you will see that. At the moment you are feeling a bit bruised and thats to be expected really. Imagine how funny it will be if he starts going back into the shop again. Brush it off, smile broadly and keep walking.....
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 I don't see what you did was wrong.
You took a chance, and it didn't pan out. If he wants to hide from you like some scaredy cat, that is on him.
If you contacted him over FB, I'd just block and delete him and move on.
Nothing WRONG in trying to reach out to people. I get that feeling rejected isn't nice, but honestly... nothing ventured - nothing gained.
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