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writes:Hi, my boyfriend cheated before and I am really trying to forget it but it is so hard, I just cannot seem to get it out of my head.There are no definite facts but I think he's up to something, I think he's hiding a a second sim card that he could be using to contact her.He will say that of course he's not and to stop worrying, that he's doing everything to try to gain my trust again, but what if he is lying. He's obviously not going to tell me the truth, he lied for months before, I'm afraid that he's doing it again, how am I going to find this out, I could contact the other girl but I think it's a bad idea because I know she will tell him.Oh God I don't know what to doplease help Reply to this Question
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reader, spydoc  +, writes (13 March 2009):
There are lots of things you can do but it depends on how bad you want to know. Usually if a woman thinks her man is cheating, he is. Not always though. I take it you are checking his cell phone for calls and text messages already. Just dont get caught doing it. Some things you can do yourself. Check everything- his gym bag,laptop bag,car, clothes etc. for any names and phone numbers. He will slip up and leave a number or name somewhere if he is cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's not what i really wanted to hear, but your right. Ive been telling myself that for a while now. It's hard to walk away now when he has been trying so hard to make this work but I am constantly second guessing everything, its not what I deserve, I know that but I'm afraid of regretting walking away incase it would have worked.
Thank you for your advice. It's a bit of a wake up call.
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reader, lgonzal2 +, writes (13 March 2009):
 Honestly I would step back and ask yourself, Is this what I want for the rest of my life? Do you want to always feel like you cannot trust him. Anyways I think once a cheater always a cheater. You need to gain confidence in yourself and stop being so gullable when he says yes baby I will change because you know I love you. Its all crap. You need to find out why you are insecure and why you are willing to stay with a cheater. You deserve better!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontwo years
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reader, lgonzal2 +, writes (13 March 2009):
How long have you been in this relationship?
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