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writes:I live with 5 other girls and they drive me insane!! They are so immature, loud and gossip non stop. They keep me up all night even when I nicely asked them to keep down. They are so interested in my personal life, since we share a wall, they listen in on my conversations and talk about me behind my back! I have confronted them on this but they still do it anyway. I cant really change roommates or move out because of financial problems. They are throwing a party this weekend and I am strongly against it. I told them how I feel but they didnt care since majority wants it and I was the only one who doesnt. I told them already that this is a really bad idea and they will get caught drinking (they are all underage) but they didnt listen to me one bit. I will not be present during the party, I will go to my friends place but i cannot stay there till 2am or whenever their party will be over. I really dont think this is fair, since I live there too and should not be kicked out of my own house! Should I report them to teach them a lesson? (Reporting them wouldnt get the police involved but the campus officers, since we live on campus and I will probably remain anonymous if i did)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I would be cautious about reporting your roommates, because since you live in that room, you might go down with the proverbial ship too. Talk to your RA and make sure that whoever does the busting knows that YOU are blame-free.
My cousin got kicked out of school for underage drinking in his dorm room. This may be the consequence for your roomies. I would talk to the RA tomorrow about your situation and how you hate living there. After the fact, your roomies can get reamed out, but if they aren't caught with tequila bottles in hand, the punishment may be less severe.
I don't know. I'm not a Resident Adviser, so I'm not sure about the rules at your particular school. I hope it works out for you, you seem like a solid student with a good head on her shoulders.
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reader, helpjayne  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 i think you should atleast have a say on this maybe you could all agree on a time it's not fair on you. tell them you have put up with enough of there immature behaviour and if that party goes over the time that you've all agreed on then you will do somethin about it. you might be seen as a killjoy but atleast then you get a little bit of a say too
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reader, shaashiie +, writes (12 November 2008):
 If they're being that rude and inconsiderate towards you I would go ahead and report them. It sounds like they're probably interfering with your studies too by the way they behave. You have a right to an enjoyable college experience and I'm sure either you or your parents are paying a great deal of money for it so you should be getting all you can out of it. Report them anonymously, they may not get the picture and it is definitely the mature way to go about it. Campus security is there for a reason. These girls should understand your situation. Request for a roommate change next semester too!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 November 2008):
 Be careful, I work at a university and on our campus if alcohol is found in a dorm room or appartment, all the students that live there are held accountable no matter whether they are there at the time of the bust or not. Check out your campus' policies before you report them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): You should report them, but make sure it's anonymous and deny that it's you. The campus officers will keep you separated. It's their fault that they got into the mess, it's their job to get out of it. Anyway what they are doing could be classed as bullying, so you shouldn't have to pay to move dorms.
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reader, staceyxxx +, writes (12 November 2008):
 i have never had to deal with any thing like this before,but i think i may have a good idea of what your feeling the only reason they do this is because your that bit older than them and the fact is they are young girls wanting to have fun, and i can see why this is a problem for you the only thing i can suggest is you put up with the silly thing they do, but when it comes to the underage drinking that will be a problem, you just have to put your foot down and say to them this will not be happening and tell them if you want to have a party go elsewhere or you will have to tell some one, if this does not work then you will have to tell some one, then im sure they will get the point.i can not ensure that this will work but its the only thing you can do, it sounds like your not the type of person to be mean and this is maybe why they do this because thay no they can get away with it but maybe im wrong just be strong and dont let them walk all over you thing will work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): If you do report them, make sure they think you are on their side, or they will know it's you. I'm thinking you should report them. You live there too, right?
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reader, Nikkii Babyee +, writes (12 November 2008):
 well tbh if yer really un happy about yer situation then of course report them! everyone is entitled to be happy and if yer really not happy then do what you gota do girl :) just be careful that it doesnt backfire an its yer whole room that doesnt get in trouble :)
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