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Should I take the plunge with my friend ? the Sexual tension is mounting, but would this ruin it ?

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Question - (9 March 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 11 March 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

A dear friend of mine have this unspoken thing for oneanother. I dont want to ruin our friendship but i have had a serious crush on her for a long time now and its apparent she does too. So much so our friendship is boarderline awkward as a result of the mounting sexual tension....Do i keep it strictly paltonic or take the plunge and either way how so?

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A female reader, AngelofLove United Kingdom +, writes (11 March 2007):

AngelofLove agony auntIf you both like each other then go for it.

You may regret it the rest of your life if you don't.

How to do it, simple. Ask her out and tell her how you feel.

Good luck

Angel of Love

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A female reader, aunty t Ireland +, writes (9 March 2007):

aunty t agony auntYou have said that things are awkard at the moment so your relationship is starting to suffer already. But if you really fancy her and she feels the same then you should take the plunge and go for it. You never know you may end up in a fantastic relationship. Alot of relationships are built around great sex and nothing much else. You too are great friends so you already have so much in common. I married my best friend and it was the best move i ever made.

Good luck

Aunty t

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A female reader, mum2be United Kingdom +, writes (9 March 2007):

You have to be prepared for the fact that if you and your friend were to get involved in a sexual relationship, things between you could never be the same agin. However, if there is tension between you, you both need to talk about how to move things forward... whether that be in a platonic or a sexual relationship. Both of you need to discuss what could happen either way, and you both need to be prepared for the consequences. I hope things work out for you. You wanted to know how to do this, and the simple answer is to talk. Take her aside and say that you have got to talk about your relationship and where it is going.

Start by admiting what you feel for her, and say that you feel you need to know whether she feels the same, and if she admits to liking you, ask her whether she thought taking it further would be a good idea. I hope oyu both get what is best for you...

xxxx

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A female reader, Cool Cucumber United Kingdom +, writes (9 March 2007):

Cool Cucumber agony auntI think that if you were to continue as platonic friends the tension would create a birdge between you both. I would suggest that as you both have been friends first then you have already established a foundation for a possible relationship now to develop!! I would say...go for it, take it to the next level. If you have known each other a while and trust and respect each other then you have absolutely nothing to lose. If it doesn't work out in the long term, cross that bridge when you come to it. Sometimes it is worth taking the risk.

Perhaps ask her out for a date - a proper date and talk honestly and openly about your feelings with her and ask her whether there is a chance that you could be more than friends!

All the best...and heres hoping eh??!!

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