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Should I take the plunge or wait it out?

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Question - (6 January 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 6 January 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid,

I have been hanging out with this guy for a while and my feelings are starting to grow more and more for him. We aren't going out yet but I can't wait till the day we do. Now I know that if i wanted to have sex with him that he would want to to but he is not pressuring me into it whatsoever. Im still a virgin and I just want to experience sex and i know im young and underage but I always think about it..not 24/7 but its just one of those things. I would obviously wait until i know that i love him for real and i can really see that coming from our relationship. and of course im worried about getting pregnate so ill be safe.

So I guess what im asking is.. is it wrong for me to feel this way?

Thanks a lot

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A male reader, NITRAM BLUE Philippines +, writes (6 January 2009):

NITRAM BLUE agony auntYou are 13-15 years of age. Under the United States law you are defined as a minor. A minor is any person under the age of 18 years of age. Having this in mind, what are the legal consequences? If you have sex with your boyfriend and your parents found out, your parents can file a criminal case against your boyfriend for Statutory Rape. It will be messy and it will leave a hellava lot of mental trauma attending court hearings.

I suggest you wait 3-5 years from now, until you become 18 to experience the joys of sex. You will be there and that is a promise.

Virginity is a rare commodity among women and a lot of young girls lose it at a very early stage. Its a possession you have that many conservative (Christian, Jewish and traditionalist) men treasure in a woman. It a symbol of innocence and a symbol of trust. Surrendering virginity to early, is likened to surrendering innocence prematurely. I have many women in my life but I never trusted anyone of them fully because I am either 2nd to the 9th man in their list of partners. Do you want to be trusted or do you want to get rid of your innocence?

Your desire to have sex and keeps on thinking about it 24/7 is normal because you are in your puberty stage when hormones starts bursting out to a scream. But even though sex is enjoyable to those who have experienced it, it has its risks - STDs and Cervical Cancer. Maybe you need to browse over the internet for these nasty things, which no sexed up woman don't dream about.

Always remember: "Good things happen to people, who wait."

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A female reader, nokutenda Zimbabwe +, writes (6 January 2009):

its not wrong to feel that way, it was bound to happen coz you spent so much together,he may start to feel that way too

its normal to think about having sex but don't act upon those thoughts-don't sleep with a guy who hasn't fallen for you yet

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