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writes:Sorry, this questions a bit wordy but I feel like the full story is neccessary.I met this girl on a band's fansite forum last summer, and we started to get to know each other. After a while she asked for my number so I gave it to her, and we started texting. Then we plucked up the courage to talk to each other on the phone, and instantly hit it off. It also turns out that when i move out later this year, ill be moving to within a few miles of her. We've even talked casually about marriage and kids, if everything goes well.Recently we started talking about more intimate things and have even had phone-sex a couple of times, which was kinda weird but good fun at the same time. We're constantly telling each other how much we love one another, and it feels that way, but since we've never met face-to-face ive began doubting whether this is actually true.I want nothing more than to meet her, but until that happens there will always be this sense of doubt and guilt in the back of my mind, because it feels like im lying to her. I *DONT* want to talk to her about it (even though you will all say i should) because i dont want to lose her over some stupid doubts. I guess im just looking for some reassurance that what im doing is ok, and that it is possible to love someone who youve never met in person.Cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answer, its lifted the weight off my chest a bit...Oh and congradulations :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): I have been in this situation before and I can tell you that, it is possible for you to love someone and have the feelings for them. But that "question" in the back of your mind is real in the same too. Because you don't really know her besides talking on the phone, its tough to say that you love her for who she really is. Because someone is always going to seem different in person than over the phone. So your best bet is to wait it out until you can see her and spend some real time with her and if she is stil the person she is over the phone than yes, you are in love.
Just to help you keep your head up the one I was talking to over the phone and thought I was love in, I am getting married to in 5 months. So it is possible.
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