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writes:I broke up with this guy because he is a real prick sometimes, to the point of making me feel like the biggest idiot on planet earth and within one week he was back with his ex. We were together a little over a year. They have children together and were together over 10 years. Even though I love him I thought that breaking up with him was what was best for me and I am more than willing to accept the fact that they may be getting back together or whatever. But what is confusing me is that he contacted me months after we have been broken up to tell me that he is confused about what is happening with him and her but he misses me, loves me, sometimes he feels that he doesn't want to go on without me, his love for her is not what it use to be, he is not attracted to her anymore, he wants to do what is best for the kids but he wants to be happy too, when he thinks of being in love he thinks of me. i am so confused. i do love him and one of the reasons i walked away was to give him time to miss me to maybe realize that he needed to treat me better. should i pursue him? is he leading me on? if he wanted to be with me wouldn't he make moves to be with me? i know that they have a 17 year old that attacked her a little while ago and my ex says that he wants to be there for support, his boys need him. i just don't know
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): Only you can decide what to do. If he was a real prick to you I would find someone else. Why do you want him?
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 what is love?
What type of love or lust are you going to settle for.
Tell me, what is it that you love about this man who has you dangling on a piece of string. He sounds confused and trying to do best by himself not you! Get out and find someone who will love you wholely not part time.
Dont settle for second best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): I think you two should be together, and will be soon. This is real love. He's doing what is right for his family, now... but he should still keep in contact with you. Even if only through snail correspondence, to be appropriate, I suppose, as he is legally attached and perhaps feel too much guilt or wrong- ness to continue with you physically... even if only talking face- to- face. If he is in love with you, it would help ease his heart to have that, I'm thinking. There would be plenty of time space between each letter, so it's not like texting daily... which might cause stress in his relationship with his family life, were that an added element to his lifestyle... the amount of feeling that can be expressed in writing would also be a lot different, in the best way possible, than texts or short phone conversations when he's got the time to spare. Constant reminders of you would probably be too painful, but space- out ones might bring ease and hope.
-T.V.
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