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writes:I have a 2 year old brother that I have Temp. custody of. I am 18 myself....I'm getting a job, he has medicaid, and I'm going to be going to school online at some point in the future. I want full custody of my brother because my mother is a horrible parent. My fiance is not supportive of this idea at all and says I should think about myself and not try and fix everyone elses problems, but he's my brother and I love him and he needs someone who cares about him....today I took him to the doctors because he had a really bad infection on his penis (he's not circumsized)and was running a fever of 103F. All of this because my mom didn't wash him properly, and never has.......so now I have to go and get him circumsized myself while I have temp. custody. I just need some advice...my first is should I be with someone that doesn't support taking my brother out of a bad situation, and the other is, Do you guys think it's a good idea? I don't want the state to take him and me never see him again..
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reader, VictoriaK +, writes (13 October 2009):
VictoriaK is verified as being by the original poster of the question The problem I'm having here is that he doesn't have a well paying job, and we live with his grandma.....she thinks it's a great idea...but my fiance is worried that we wont be able to build "our" future together, and have enough money to support a child...we are both young...but I have a friend who has a great paying job, and he has a nice house, and a child of his own....and he said that he would be willing to help me by letting me and my brother stay there...but how do I say that to my fiance? He hates the guy......
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Take custody of your little brother! He is so lucky to have you looking out for him, you should be proud of yourself. If your fiance isn't happy about it then too bad I think....surely he can see what a good thing you will be doing by taking your brother in. If he can't deal with it then he will have to go- you are being really mature here, and it's a shame your fiance isn't supporting you.
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reader, kathy255 +, writes (13 October 2009):
Family always comes first take care of him if your fiance' loves you he'll stay by your side. He plans on making a for better or for worse commitment he might as well get use to it. Take your brother and treat him right, I wish someone would have taken me from my mom I may have had shoes growing up if they did.
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reader, arty +, writes (13 October 2009):
i think if the situation is that dangerous to little man you need to take care of your bro and if fiance is against you i would be saying "GOODBYE FIANCE", he should be supporting you.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (13 October 2009):
 I would seriously question the character and integrity of your boyfriends if he is telling you to ignore your little brother and only think about yourself. He's your little brother! I would never be with a guy who would tell me to be blind when my family needs me! Dump him and take care of your brother!
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reader, Kendra0589 +, writes (13 October 2009):
 If you want to take care of your little brother I think you should go for it. Eventually your mother will lose custody because she doesn't tend to him properly. Your boyfriend is telling you otherwise but if he can't understand you love your brother you don't need him. This is no easy situation. You are young and have your life to live so this is a tough situation.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (12 October 2009):
You take care of your little brother, he needs you. I think your Fiance is very selfish, he should be supporting you instead of telling you to leave your little brother to be neglected. I hope you get custody of your little brother.
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