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writes:Ok.. well I really need help, I'm gay, my parents know and all they're not happy but they cope with it... Anyway I met some boy online and he asked me on a date, I really want to go but I don't know how to tell my mum, and what their reaction will be...HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (25 May 2009):
If you wait until you're older you won't need to tell your parents and it won't be so awkward and potentially stressful. Also, it probably is a tad risky for someone of your age to go on a date with someone you've met online.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): if the age you stated on your question is correct then there is no way you should go and meet this 'person' do you not read the paper??? perverts are all over the place you have enough time to meet other gay young people without going to meet strangers from the internet.Please think carefully about ignoring my advice.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (23 May 2009):
 its just a tacky way to explore things as their picture can be old or maybe they smell and that fails to come through in a photo. if you been talking to them for a long time meet them in town in public for coffee and tell a friend (who can watch from nearby then you can give them an all clear signal when you feel totally positive) and have your mobile. do not have sex or leave the public place.
if anything makes you feel wierd or even slightly sus leave the coffee shop and go home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): Telling your parents is a bad idea - if they're already 'not happy' about your sexuality, it's unlikely that they'll react positively to the idea of you going to meet a boy for a date.
Also be very careful, what do you know about the person you're thinking of meeting? How can you be sure it isn't a 50-year-old paedophile? Have you seen his photo, do you have his name?
I'd strongly recommed you seek advice from someone you can confide in, maybe a female friend or schoolmate.
I know all about how intense and traumatic these feelings are for a guy your age, and how huge the temptation gets, but at age 13-15 I think it's very advisable that you wait until around the 17-18 mark before having sex, and even then, don't be casual about who you do it with.
hope this helps, you'll be OK, its a tough time but you'll get thru it. Good luck
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (21 May 2009):
 Its not safe at all to meet up with someone you met online.
My mum works with lots of people who have met up with teenagers they met on the internet and abused them.
My advice would be not to go. You don't know who this person is.
Your parents will come to accept your sexuality, it will just take time.
Livia
xoxox
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 May 2009):
It's really not safe to go and meet someone off the internet on your own.
You need to take someone with you, tell someone else where you are going and then meet them in a public place and stay in public places at all times.
I think you need to tell your parents that you are meeting a friend off the internet. You don't have to tell them that it is a date. Just because you told them you are gay, it doesn't mean they have to know all the details of your love life.
And anyway, even if he does turn out to be a genuine guy, you may not like him!
Good Luck!! xx
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