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writes:My ex that i lost my virginity to has contacted me through Facebook, it's been 8 years we were each others first we had a deep love and we had a horrible breakup. he hated me for a while but then last year over Facebook we would write statuses sbout one another without actually talking to each other like lookin at each others pages and responding to each other indirectly. i feel that the love for each other has ben there ever since we broke up and this year in may his father passed away so I sent him a card with a beautiful saying and wrote sorry for your loss, and now what I also think is weird is I just made my profile private and he messages me now how should I go about this should I go for it? Or let the past be the past I have a child and the father isn't in his life anymore
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reader, S32811 +, writes (26 July 2011):
S32811 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u all I think I needed a reality check I guess im missing that feeling of being loved and always given out so much for the baby that I need to learn to keep that going until I find that person one day when I have my child and I all settled on our own thank u all
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): I have the feeling you are fantisizing about what you think this guy is writing on fb. First off, you have no idea whether he is writing those things for you or someone else & secondly, if he is writing things to you it sounds like he is just playing a game with you & you are eating it up out of loneliness. If he was really interested in something more with you he would come right out & say so... He would want to get together with you.
There's nothing wrong with being just friends with this guy & nothing wrong with communicating on fb with him either but, for your own sake STOP trying to make something out of nothing. I'm not saying this to hurt you but, I am trying to save you the hurt when you realize that this guy is not what you have fantisized him to be.
You are very young still & have a child to raise- that should be your top priority right now. The day will come when the man of your dreams shows up & wants to love you & your child for real..this guy is not that man. Take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): I think you are probably lonely and creating a fantasy around this boyfriend from long ago. I don't think he was writing about you in his statuses either and that is you making more out of this than what is there. You have a child now and you are a single mother at a very young age so its better for you to concentrate on your child and figure out why you make big mistakes in your love life.
Boys your age are not that excited about a ready-made family when there are so many single girls out there without baggage...that will change as you get older or in a few years. Use this time to raise your child without drama and go to school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): OP - a deep love at the age of 13? WAY too young to know what love is and to have had any form of sexual contact. Leave the guy and the past alone and focus on your CHILD.
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reader, S32811 +, writes (25 July 2011):
S32811 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just think we was young I was 13 and the way we handled that relationship could be different now that I'm 21 u kno
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 I'm with 'dirtball' on this. It never works to go back to the past. Let it go.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Let the past be the past. Getting back with exes fails 99% of the time.
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