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writes:now i want you to know... my ex is bipolar.so confused someone help. my ex gf came over the other night and hung out with me when she got out of work. was a little past midnight and we ended up talking and hanging out till about 3:30 or 4. she told me how much better i looked and hugged me a few times.at that time we started making out. we made out/fooled around for about an hour and 1/2 to 2 hours. 2 times she went down on me but not long enough for me to finish or anything. we couldn't progress cause she was "on her period". after she cuddled up to me and said she loved me. i didn't reply.if i slid away from her she would ask why i wasn't cuddling. i got up and went to the bathroom. when i came back she woke up and put her hand on my thigh and kept it there and called me baby. she gave me a kiss and we went back to bed.i had to go to work so i got her up and had her get dressed then she waited for me to walk downstairs and out to her car where she gave me a 30 second hug. this was saturday morning. i asked her her plans for that night and she said going out with friends and she would give me a call after. i didnt call her all day cause i didnt want to seem like i was trying too hard and plus she said she would call me. never heard from her and today (Sunday) her phone was off all day. What did i do wrong? she acted so into me friday night/saturday morning and now she has gone ghost. was it all an act just cause she want company or were the feelings real you think?i tried to give as much of the situation as possible to help with you giving advice. sorry if i went overboard with details.
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 Seems like shes pushing you away on purpose. She probably has low self-esteem. It's really up to you what you do with this one and depends how much independent of what she says you love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnvm. she told me not to love her.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (26 July 2011):
Well, firstly, I am glad she's ok. I have to say I have experiences in this area too though she wasn't an ex as such; just a close but often complicated friend. What Cindy says is an accurate reflection of how things can be. You do have to look out for your own feelings. My suggestion is do some reading around the issue and also trawl Youtube; there are some good videos on their by people with bi-polar who portray how they feel. Finally, I would say I don't think she is playing the field as such on this occasion but more 'hedging her bets'; especially after she committed so obviously but you didn't - so, my advice is read-up; think about if your willing to make this commitment and if you are go for it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 My ex's ex was bipolar too and the reason why they had broken up was because every few months she would go on a sexual rampage and would sleep with some random " friend ". My ex forgave her twice but the problem was that she couldn't/wouldn't commit to not do it anymore because when she was in her manic phase, that's what she had to do.
I always thought this was the most convenient excuse ever, because the girl was in therapy and on meds, and anyway bipolar does not mean " I think I am Napoleon and I have lost my grip on real life ". But, they DO have a big problem with impulse control, and if they don't have a big motivation, they won't even try to control their impulses.
Maybe what happened to you belongs to this kind of scenario.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni got a call from her tonight. she has just gotten out of a relationship with a guy and she said she was just home and had her phone off. she still says bf and not ex though using it in a convo.
is she still with him maybe and trying to play the field? i feel as if i might smother her if i call her everyday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): I am not saying she isn't a good person but my ex was bi-polar also. We were together for two and a half years and it was an emotional rollercoaster. Yes I fell in love with him and I wanted to help in anyways I could. It became too much and I was moving into my own apartment when he tried to commit suicide. That was after our first year together. I stayed with him for another year and a half and just when you think all is going great all hell breaks loose. If she drinks at all being bi-polar then you are in for an emotional rollercoaster ride too. If she doesn't drink you might have a chance but there isn't any happy medium its either a high or a low. Take care and I wish you all the best.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (25 July 2011):
I can imagine to be honest; that is very worrying and I was thinking it which is why I asked about the social media activity? Do you know her address? Might be worth going round.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMonday and still havent heard a thing from her. No activity on facebook, her best friend asked her on her wall if she was still alive. I don't care about anything now but just wondering if she is ok. I didn't want to tell her I loved her because I didn't want her to lose interest. (would be surprised how many guys do that).
I don't care now if she rejects me or never talks to me again, I just want to make sure she isn't hurt or anything. 3 days with her phone off.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (25 July 2011):
Well I would tend to say the answer to this is probably startlingly obvious. I read the first line and was about to mention the fact that the moods of people with bi-polar be very changeable BUT this clearly has nothing to do with that. She made so many advances on you and even told you she loved you and what did you reply with? Nothing.
She obviously now feels utterly rejected and this is why shes blanking you though her phone being totally off is a little strange. Have you seen any evidence of activity on any social media profiles she has, Facebook, etc? In terms of advice to make it right - well that depends on what you want, do you want her back? If so, I think you need to get in touch as soon as possible and apologise, tell her you messed-up, and hope she will accept that.
Good luck and I hope it turns out ok for your both :)
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