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30-35,
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writes:I tend to hang around males FAR more often than I hang around females. I've always been this way, even way back in elementary.This particular male friend admitted to me about two month back that he really liked me and thought I liked him too, so we should be in a relationship. I (politely) told the guy that he was mistaken. I did not like him as anything over a friend and could never see us in a relationship. After that he backed off, even stopped talking to me for a few weeks.Recently a group of us, which he is often included in, began to go to the movies weekly as so many good ones are coming out and we are all very interested in film. But now this guy is becoming clingy. It's a large group of us (usually 6-8) but he feels the need to purposely sit by me in the movies, going so far as asking another friend if he could switch seats so he could sit by me. This was the first red flag. During the movie I accidentally brushed against his arm. Most people including myself didn't/wouldn't may much mind to that seeing as we are sitting in a MOVIE THEATER. But he responds with nudging me and chuckling. Red flag two.Red flag three he has taken a sudden interest in a series he KNOWS I like just to make conversation.Red flag four when we went out to eat he saved a seat for me right by him... I didn't want to be rude so I just sat down.A lot of red flags. Really this guy is cool but I think he is trying (again) to nudge me into liking him and being in a relationship with him. I am not attracted to him... at all. It's not going to happen. I just want to be friends. I would love advice on this! Should I still be his friend but set boundaries? Or should I stop hanging out with him.... which will affect how I hang around other people in the group?Many thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, lenahbridge  +, writes (25 June 2013):
This is always going to be an awkward situation to get out of as you can't really avoid seeing him now and then without avoiding your other friends too... I say you should tell him that you feel a bit uncomfortable, reiterate to him that you like him a lot as a friend but don't see anything more and sometimes feel a bit awkward when he acts too close with you.
It will be awkward at first, but he should know he is making you feel uncomfortable.
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (25 June 2013):
 tough one.. But keep blowing him off gently until he gets the message clear.. Its gonna break him but if you dont like him then thats it..
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