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writes:i have a boyfriend for 2 years now and boy is it a roller coaster. we have our good times then our really really bad times. it seems as if the only thing we do is fight. then after we fight we break up then get back together because we both end up realizing that we dont wanna break up. i love him and he loves me to.we are comlplete opposites. he is the best boyfriend, he buys me everything, he respects me, he does pretty much anything for me. but when he gets mad. his temper blows through the ROOF!! he yells and grabs me and then he'll be really unreasonable. after that whole show is over he'll ask me questions and well fight becuae of my attitude. so then we both dont talk to eacch other for a while and then end up resolving what ever the issue was. but the thing is in the bed room....i just dont feel like being intimate as much as he is. he'll always expect to get something at the end of the day andsometimes im just not in the mood. sometimes i just go thru with it to satify him but if i dont he gets all pissy about it.eventually he gets over it but i also feel that he is "TOO" nice for me. I want a bad boy too not just a prissy one. And yes i told him to try and switch it up but then he takes it to a different level...like he gets more dominant, and thats not what i want. i dont know what to do because i feel like this is just dragging the relationship and we only have fun once in a while, its like we do the same thing everyday. i love him, but is that a good reason for me to stay or should i go find someone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): honey, i kind of think you should leave him...they say opposites attract, but if you're too different, it may never work...one day, one of you might do something to set the other off like you never have before, and trust me, that'll hurt you both. if you don't think it'll work now, get out.however, if you REALLY love this guy, and you honestly, rationally believe that it WILL work out, and your not just fantasizing, i know it will turn out right. you may not have to settle this issue now, but when the time comes, i have faith that you'll make the right decision!XX maggiegood luck!!!
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reader, DREAM69 +, writes (6 June 2008):
Take it from a woman who is married to a man just like that. He's like jeckle and Hyde. One minute he's loving, and the next he is a total jerk. Let me guess, he fusses at you about things other people did? All I can say is try to make it work. Just know this, you don't fall in love. You grow in love. Everything for the first year and until you marry him is lust. If he ever puts his hands on you, leave that sorry POS in the dust. I really hope this helps.
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reader, iamthesupreamegod +, writes (6 June 2008):
 tough one... if he has anger issues, an anger management class may help... and you could even take it with him.. that way you both learn and he may not be so opposed to it. if you really love him.. you need to explore every option before you give up... and it sounds like you been through a few. mayby talk to him about it again, but this time do a better job of explaining exactly how you feel... not just telling him to "switch it up". give him examples of how you might like him to act around you sometimes... but build these examples based on him... don't suggest something that isn't him. i know that this reply isn't exactly the most coherent... but i hope my ramblings have helped... good luck
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