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female
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30-35,
*ust_a_girl_28
writes:I've been dating this guy for about two months. He says he really likes me and almost told me that he felt he loved me. The thing about him is that he has a VERY rocky past. He has slept with over 40 girls and was the "player" type. Everyone insists that he has changed since he has done things for me that he has never done for anyone else. We spend a lot of time together and my family and friends adore him and he can always keep me smiling. The problem is though that we CONSTANTLY fight. I have major trust issues since my ex boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me a lot while I kept taking him back. Now this new guy of mine really is nice but I sometimes feel like he isn't ready for a new relationship because he still always wants to be going out and stuff (just with the boys, no girls) and I'm fine with that it’s just that he never wants to just stay home. Sometimes he can say mean things and talk to me in a bad way yet he never sees it and thinks I am the one that talks to him bad. At times he can just make me feel horrible but at others like the luckiest girl. He has done very sweet things for me and I really appreciate it all. But then again it’s like yeah he is nice but only when he wants to be. He never really sees when he does something wrong and instead just says I'm sorry and avoids talking about the issue.Another thing that he doesn't understand is that I am being very faithful to him. I hardly go out to keep him from worrying about anything, I call him constantly, and hardly talk to any guys. Yet, he still thinks I talk to too many guys and that it’s ME that has to change my ways in order for us to work out. I really care about him and want to last but I just don't know what I should do anymore.Should I stay in this relationship and try to work things out or just get out of it now.?
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reader, just_a_girl_28 +, writes (12 June 2009):
just_a_girl_28 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the advice!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (5 June 2009):
 I would just get out now. Any guy who makes you feel horrible, tries to control who you speak to, and doesn't see himself at fault at all for any of your problems - not worth it. How long are you going to be willing to put up with him always putting the blame on you, and saying nasty things to you when you fight?
I really think that this guy comes with way too much baggage and the emotional energy it will take to deal with him is simply NOT WORTH IT. I would move on from this one...
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): LEAVE HIM
theres nothing else for it
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