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writes:so im 16 years old and my teaching set changed this year and there was this girl that i didnt usually talk to, but this year she sits next to me (alphabetical) and i got to know her and i was nice to her but as a friend and she started to get feelings for me and its ruined our friendship she barely talks to me and everytime i talk to her its really awkward can someone please give me some advice on what to do P.s the girl isn't good looking but shes got a good personality.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all those helped, u really made a diffrence. I spoke to her maturely and she accepted it and we can talk like friends again :) thx again
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Well kid, it happens but you should be clear and straight forward to her about only wanting to be friends. Be careful on how you do it because you don't want to come off as a jerk or thinking you are to good. It's going to be weird for some time because you both have to adapt to the others feelings.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 That's a hard one. Looks is in the eyes of the beholder. To have a relationship as she wants there has to be mutual attraction. I am guessing that is not the case for you towards this girl. If you care about her at all you will sit her down and have a nice talk with her. Tell her you are not attracted to her, and don't say she isn't good looking because that will destroy her. You just are not attracted to her. However, you enjoy her friendship and you want to be around her but not in the way she wants to be around you.
One of three things will happen, 1) you will find a good solid friendship...but this means she has to put "those" feelings aside; 2) she will not want to be your friend...this has nothing to do with you, it's her. She may find it difficult-if not impossible- to be around you as only a friend if she has other feelings. She will for instance be crushed when she sees you with another girl. Too bad for the pending friendship but she has to look out for herself and not get hurt in the friendship; 3) you will continue to be friends and if she truly has a great personality that you are attracted to, it could be that her personality wins you in the long run and you eventually come to realize beauty comes from within AND it is in the eyes of the beholder.
Good luck and be kind. You seem to care about this girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): yeah talk to her be her friend..she likes u and has feelings..dnt dissapoint her by not talking to her.
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reader, shaniquas3 +, writes (5 June 2009):
looks don't matter..well u wouldnt think that cause ur young.but i think u should give her a chance and be GO0D FRIENDS with her.don't be mean.she's only acting like that cause she is embarrased to talk to you cause she knows you know she likes you.so tomorrow try and talk to her about sum stuff yall talked about before the awkwardness.you never kno what it could turn out to be..
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