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writes:So, me and my boyfriend are wanting to have sex sometime soon but I don't know if I should shave down there or not. Should I ask him or is it weird to ask your boyfriend something like that? Or do most guys like it shaved or just trimmed? Or leave it alone? I've been telling him that theres something I'm worried about, about my private area before we decide to have sex and he wants me to just tell him what I wanna know but I don't know if i should ask him about shaving or not. What should I do? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Yippie, I like him because he doesn't want you to bother yourself going overboard to try to pretend to be something your not. I wish I could like him even more, if he put an end to this sex thing, which could leave you pregnant or cause you to feel ashamed of yourself when you get older. Many young women who have sex at such a young age find it difficult to explain when they are older. Unfortunately in this day and age girls that have sex early are still seem as cheap and lacking respect for themselves but many other people. I wish you and him could wait. Many regret having sex, especially when they find a guy who wants to marry them. Sorry I know you didn't ask, but it's what I've seen. If your going to do anything sexual, please use a condom, it would be a shame if you got pregnant or caught a sexual disease.
Unfortunately condoms can also break, we had a post earlier from a 14year old in a panic and very, very scared. If you do decide to have sex, and anything goes wrong with the condom, there is a pill you can take to prevent pregnancy as long as you take it within 72hours. And another warning, sex is not always nice the first time and it often hurts a lot. Learning to have good sex takes a lot of time. Sex also brings up a lot of emotions, and either him or you can be left feeling guilty or dirty and actually it will lead to you destroying the relationship and pushing each other away.. Be very sure about the reason why you have sex, and make sure you and him are totally ready, trust one another, and are safe so there will not be any problems which may ruin both of your futures. I know you didn't ask, but please read this link and think again about whether you are really ready to have sex.
http://www.avert.org/sex.htm
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo everyone that posted answers to my question, you ALL Helped me out A LOT! Lol. I didn't actually ask him about it, but I was about to, I was with him just last night(New Years Eve) And he actually got on this site, but I was already logged in, and read my questions without me knowing. He told me he didn't want me to shave so..Lol! But I got more comfortable talking to him about these things. But thanks to everyone that posted answers! You guys helped me out a lot :)
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reader, gracejean xo +, writes (30 December 2008):
 truthfully all guys like different things.
i would talk to him deffinetly ask what he thinks is sexy in a girl?...i do. i mean every guy is different you know.
let me know how it goes please.
thanks girl
& goodluck ;)
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (30 December 2008):
 Ah! Don't worry honey! Wehter to trim it shave it or leave it bushy is kind of a " to each there own" type of deal. I think you should ask your boyfriend what he personally likes. Don't be nervous, if you can talk to him about sex you can talk ot him about anything!!! lol goodluck!
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reader, ely14 +, writes (30 December 2008):
 i was in ur position too!!
i didnt know wat to do...
so i decided to ask him...
it wasnt that hard...so just ask him...
dnt be scared..=D
GOOD LUK!!
(dnt forget to use protection!)
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reader, Ashleigh9345  +, writes (30 December 2008):
If your really worried talk to him about it, ask him what he finds "sexy".
Or if your too shy just ask your girlfriends there opionion of what they would do or have done.
But remember if its both your first time, he probably doesnt no what to expect himself wich can be a good thing in your situation.
Most guys i have spoken too like it shaved but its entirly your choice remeber.
good luck =]
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reader, heretohelp-kirsty +, writes (30 December 2008):
 well yes i think you should to be honest :)
let me know .
kirsty.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Ask him. The only thing you can really do. If you two are ready to commit to each other in that way you should be able to talk about anything. I'm sure he won't freak out and will be more than happy that you're taking his personal views into consideration. Most guys I have come across prefer shaved girls, however there are those that don't care or prefer differently.
Just ask. It can't hurt.
Wishing You The Best.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): you should just ask him just to see what he thinks but ists raelly up to your self what you want to do(**,) like if ye are planning on having sex he must care for you and probably wont mind what you look like down there...and plus ye are both very young so he wont have seen anyone elses parts so he wont judge you or anything!:D
but if you are thinking of shaving just do a bit at the sides and that. dont worrie about it though. hair is natural so everone has it including your boyfriend!!! good luck anyway....(**,)
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