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writes:My boyfriend of almost a month wants pics but im not that comfortable about it. He is sorta mad about it because I said idk. Its also a semi long distant relationship. I really like him! Should I do it or should he be repectful of my decisions? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 Considering your age and the time you have been together he needs to respect your decision and has no right to be mad.
No one has a right to expect you to do anything you don't want. Many things are expected when you enter a relationship, but respect is also something that you need to have. If he can not accept that you said no, it is his choice whether these pics are more important to him than you.
After not even a month together I wouldn't have sent pics I am not comfortable with to anyone. I wouldn't send pics without being comfortable about it period. But to add in your age and I assume his age is the same, this is a high risk situation. Pictures can end up being viewed by others. Especially pics on the phone. Either someone borrows his phone and looks though them, or he is a horny teenager who will show them off to his friends to impress. Be cautious.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 September 2010):
 Has he sent you any pictures of him?
And are we talking about a picture of your face or something else?
If he really likes you, I think we ought to wait til you feel comfortable sending him a photo.
However, DON'T EVER send any "sexy" - nude or semi nude pictures. You just have NO way of controlling WHO might end up with them and what they might be used for. Be smart!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 September 2010):
He should be respectful of your decision. Don't send any pics that you don't want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): im a guy, and i have asked for it before. but in the end its better off if you tell him to respect you and that its not right.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 Whatever you do; do NOT send him any pictures of yourself in suggestive clothing, (no clothing) seductive poses, bikinis, lingerie, half nude. Things like this never have a good ending and your pictures will end up plaster on Facebook for everyone to look at, ridicule and laugh at. Don't let him make a fool out of you. Do you know how many girls have killed themselves after doing something like this? Don't be a victim. If he wants to look at half naked girls and flash them around with his guy friends, he can buy a Playboy magazine.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 You're right to be uncomfortable. In this day and age, you have to be very careful about what you send on the internet. Once you send a picture, it's not your property anymore. Someone could hack ur bf's comp and sell such picture OR if you break up with him, he could use those pics for blackmail/revenge purposes. If he wants a "normal" picture of you, that's still your decision to give or not to give. He shouldn't be pressuring you to get his way or getting mad over you refusing to do something that doesn't feel right to you. Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Are we talking like... face pics? Pics of you doing everyday things with friends? Pictures of your cat? You might ask yourself why you're uncomfortable sending your boyfriend pictures of you because it sounds like there's a deeper issue.
However, if it's naughty pictures then no. He needs to respect your decision that you're uncomfortable with that.
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