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*hpadoinkle
writes:I am 21, male, not a virgin but I haven't had sex in a couple years. I have been waiting for this girl, who has had a boyfriend for years and she like me for a while but I didn't want to "steal her" or whatnot. Now she's recently single but already fooling around with a different guy. It really tore me up because I thought she was the only one for me. After all this time should I tell her how I feel, or just suck it up and move on?
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reader, shpadoinkle +, writes (9 August 2008):
shpadoinkle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to both of you, I'm glad I finally got some advice.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (8 August 2008):
 did you tell her you were into her before she started dating around??? because you didn't say that specifically in your question.i pretty much agree with the anon guy who answered already.it seems like she is just taking advantage of you. girls like to have backup lovers they can always go back to, and you might be hers.my advice is to tell her you love her and you want to be with her, then back off.SERIOUSLY. back off. disappear, get busy. if she wants to be with you, she will resolve everything in her life and be with only you.if she lets you go and stays with this new guy, or temporarily tries to get you back then goes back to dating other guys with you on the side, you know it is definitely not worth your time and you need to find someone new who will appreciate you for the good person you are.good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Being a nice guy. With nice guy friends. I've seen this happen over and over again. She just wants to string you along. She'll complain to you about boyfriend after boyfriend but you'll never get to be one of them.
You are firmly planted in the friend zone. If she were attracted to you at all she would have bedded you already. You are being played for a fool.
She's not worth your time. These girls are a dime a dozen. Trust me there are women out there that are looking for someone loyal and caring like you, but this girl is not one of them.
All she wants from you is someone sensetive to talk to while she screws all the bad boys around her six ways til Sunday.
Let her go. Run away as fast as you can. You are worth more than this.
Beware, as soon as you truly let go and start to move on, she'll try to get you back. Don't give in. She'll just want to know she can still control and manipulate you. As soon as you start to show interest in her again, she'll drop you like a used condom from a one night stand.
I used to be like you. I finally grew a pair found someone who accepts and deserves the love I have to give. She's amazing and worships the ground I walk on.
You don't have to change. You just need to find someone who appreciates you for all you have to offer.
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