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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My fiance and i Have beentogether for 5 years andwhen we first started dating i had no problem with his porn because it wasent a lot of it.then he went nuts with it and he had a gig of it and it hurt so bad because i felt like i wasent hot enough for him.he looks up non nude pictures now but it still hurts cause they are cuter than me. and every time i try to talk to him about it he just gets mad. he waits until i go to sleep and he looks it upon the net andi just want things to go back to the way they were when he didnt look it up on the net. i dont have a problem with dvds and magazines and he used to watch it with me.now he dosent and it makes me feel like he dosent think im hot anymore.id love some advice on what to do please.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Sweetheart this situation isn't going to change and it seems as though it is getting worse.
You have been with your fiance for a long time for someone still so young.
Don't sit around in a relationship that is not going anywhere and it is making you miserable and doubting your own self image.
Your fiance is the one with the addiction and that is what it is as it is free and easy on the net and believe me once they start to look and it gets a hold it will never go away but he is still a very young guy too by the sounds of things so don't wait around in a loveless relationship just because he put a ring on your finger.
You need someone who wants to be with you and values you and gives you the attention you deserve. Yes a lot of guys look but it is the level of the amount of looking that is the worry.
You want to be the special person in a guy's life not the flesh and blood gf who is never touched or talked to or cared for emotionally and physically.
Value yourself and start to think about what sort of relationship you want to have and maybe it is time for you to know that it is time to move on unless something changes with the way he is, believe me sweetheart I have been there with my ex and it got so much worse that my ex ended up having an affair about looking on the net so don't wait around to be the one who is hurt by him cheating on you.
Stay strong and keep your head held high and know that you are hot and there are a million guys out there who would just count themselves lucky to have a gf like you and who they would devote their love and life to.
Go girl and show him what he is ignoring in his gorgeous gf OK.
Keep us posted eh!
Take care and stay strong and positive.
BFN
Country Woman
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