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writes:I separated from my husband almost 3 years ago there were lots of issues, I met someone else but he was married long story short he is still married and whenever I broach the subject of us being together I always get the same line I.e he has no money, waiting for the children to leave home and the list is endless. I have now had enough my husband even though we are separated has always been there for me. I have now made a decision to reconcile with my husband he still loves me and I still love him even though I thought I didn't. Do the aunts think I am doing the right thing by kicking the other man to the curb. BTW he still lives at home with his wife and teenage kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): Thank you for your answers I have ended it with the lover. My husband and I are going to reconcile, my husband was abusive in the past due to issues he had, he has been treated for this and is a changed person. As for using him no I'm not I have a good job and earn a very good salary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): End the relationship with the married man. But do not go back to your husband. It sounds as if you need a man in your life, but why? Have a bit of time alone. Women can function without a man quite happily! Then you can look at life from a better, well balanced position. Not going from the frying pan into the fire is a better option. Give yourself space to know what you want - you will be happier in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): Nope do not reconcile with your hubby. Does he know about your current lover?
You only now want your hb bec you are tired and fed up bec your lover wouldn't leave his wife and kids for you.
Kick your lover to the curb? I think your hb needs to do this instead. Can u actually see the irony?
Your hb deserves better. Stop using him and stop stringing him along.
LoveGirl
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reader, TEM  +, writes (1 March 2011):
 Absolutely. You should end your relationship with the married man ASAP. In this relationship you are the other woman and he is using you. He will never leave his wife and three children.
In kind, you have turned your husband into "the other man." I think you are lucky that he still has feelings for you. You separated because there were issues. Has you husband resolved those issues? If not, you may find the relationship fails for the same reasons it did three years ago.
If the issues in you marriage were between you, and not just his, you must work them out before attempting to get back together. It looks like you will also have another issue to deal with - your affair with the married man. My advice is marriage counseling before you reconcile with your husband.
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