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writes:There's a girl I started talking to in July, at the moment nothing is going on but I feel like that may be my fault. However I'm also feeling like I should move on but I'd like to know if theres anything I can do to start talking to her again because she seems like a good woman. It's nothing serious and I'm probably overthinking it, but here's what happened. We were on Snapchat back and forth for about three weeks or so, nothing sexual just small talk. Eventually we tried to meet up so she told me about a party that was going on one night. As I was going to leave the house I asked if she was there already and didn't get a response so I stayed home. When I woke up the next morning she had responded with "You actually went?", to which I said something along the lines of "Nah, I ended up falling asleep lol. You didn't go either?". She never opened my response though. At first I figured she rejected me so I haven't talked to her since which was now a little over a month ago but I'm wondering now because usually people will just delete you, and none of the things that would signal me being blocked or removed from her friends have happened, she just never opened the message I sent. Should I reach out again or move on? I don't think it'd hurt that much to see what's up, but I also feel like that's desperate and I should just move on. What are your opinions? What would you do? Thanks for reading guys!
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (26 September 2017):
 I feel like it's perhaps time to move on. Not just because of her message but because it seems like she doesn't like you like that.
I think she's actually impolite to not actually tell you outright that she isn't interested but to just ignore your messages and such.
Try to find someone who will appreciate all of the effort that you put in.
Good luck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 September 2017):
 Well, as you say, reaching out once more would not hurt that much, we are surely not at stalker level yet :) - but all in all, yeah, move on. She is not interested ; either she never was and just liked the attention, or for whatever reason she lost interest ... and with so many girls around , it's just simpler to set your sights elsewhere than trying to rekindle such a feeble flame.
Do not take it personally, like Rejection with a capital R. There are pros and cons in an instant connection, social media- based society. One of the cons is that people have become more " fluid " in social interactions and have a shorter attention span; it is much easier to get in touch with somebody, and also much easier to get distracted and lose momentum for no particular reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2017): Thanks Honeypie, I had a feeling.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 September 2017):
 Nah just delete her.
She isn't into you. There was a REASON she didn't reply. She didn't go and she didn't want to meet you.
Think about it. IF she was REALLY keen on meeting you, she would have jumped at the chance to meeting you in person. Or she would have suggested you meet up outside of a party. she hasn't.
She liked the attention but either has a BF or isn't interested AT all. If she was interested she would DEFINITELY have opened your message... Wouldn't you?
There are SO many other girls out there, why get stuck on a girl who has kind of rejected you without having the balls to ACTUALLY reject you?
Come on.
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