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36-40,
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writes:Im was married at 18 and gave everything for my husband. He and I had only been with each other but he wasn't happy married and I knew it. A few years ago my mom passed away and I flipped out. I left him and started just sleeping around. He found out cuz I told him and we didn't file yet but we have been separated for a year now. He was mad but got over it and wanted to hang out once in a while and spend time together. I needed to make money and started sleeping w/ men to make money and had some sugar daddies. But when we hang out he wants to have sex and I don’t want that or to make him feel unwanted I just think it will confuse him. He doesn’t understand and just gets mad and then say if we hang out we don’t have to it’s, just for fun and spend time together. He joined he army and is leaving soon and wants to spend time together. Im ok with that but when he drinks has an A** and is mean and brings up stuff that I did to hurt him.Hes leaving soon and im moving and I know this is the last time im going to see him but he’s so mean and calls me names. I know I deserve it but just don’t know what to do. Do I tell him leave me alone and make his last few days sad or just take it and hang in there. I feel bad b/c I know what im doing is wrong but im lost and sad I hurt him and feel so shitty. I know im a bad person but I hate to see him hurt I do love him and want him to be happy. Last night he flipped out and left my apt and didn't tell me why, im not sure what he found but I passed out and I think he looked at my email and messages. If that’s the case I know he hates me b/c he keep calling me a whore. Im so lost. Help. I don’t want name calling or anything just advice please.
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reader, devastated2008 +, writes (3 September 2009):
 Send him away with a nice note that you care about him and he deserves better, but you're not good for each other. Tell him you wish him the best in his life but its clearly over and you are going to focus on fixing your life and you hope he learns to forgive you and move on. The End.Then no more contact period. Get the divorce. Fix you. Stop the drugs, alcohol and illicit sex. Taking care of those things alone will change your life and your perspective. You are a hurt and lonely person doing terrible things to yourself and you deserve a much better life...now make it happen.Praying for you. May God bless your efforts.
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