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*bell19
writes:I have an issue. I am married, but I find myself attracted to one of my co-workers. We have to work close to each other everyday. He is just so sweet,really funny, super nice, and he tells me at least once a day something nice about me to make me feel good. I doubt he will try anything just because he is too nice and always tries to do the right thing. Should I pursue this attraction or just chalk it up to being a silly crush and move on?
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reader, EllenMF  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 who makes you happy?
its about love and love is happiness... so who makes you happy, and will continue to make you happy??
its not about how they feel, if you don't love the other than u'll have to end it
but you definitely will have to talk to your husband no matter what
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reader, loops  +, writes (6 January 2008):
I agree with dr vendetta. If your marrige is going well generally and you and your husband have a good and solid relationship I would put this down to just a twinge of momentary lapse ( we are all human it happens), and remain what seems to be having a good friend in this man.
However if this is due to a problem in your relationship, Id suggest you deal with that before anything else. It is not worth becoming a cheater to do so, either resolve the problem by talking to your husband and expressing your fears and anxieties and seeing if you can change things, or if it past that point maybe see about going your seperate ways, but for your own self esteem/ self image and everything else, I wouldn't pursue it. If you and your husband were seperated/divorced my answer may be different, but it's not worth YOUR head mess or anyone elses involved- including this guy who seems like a really nice guy to do that.
Good luck
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reader, AJ jess ^..^ +, writes (6 January 2008):
 remember this is a crush, your married who would you rather be with in the long term, you dont know if this guy loves you anyway, he sounds like someone to be good friends with but would you jepardise your marriage for someone your not sure about? x
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (6 January 2008):
 all depends on if you have a good marriage and you love your husband.if you don't love your husband or the marriage is going down the toilet. don't become another cheater. theres plenty out there as it is.
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