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writes:I've been going out with an amazing guy for nearly three years. We've never lived in the same place but have managed to keep it going this long - obviously because we both feel it's worth it. The thing is it's not getting any easier. At the moment it's necessary for us to be in different places because of work/uni. It's going to be about a year and a half before we can even think about being in the same place. We've always been close - we're each other's best friend - but it feels like we've got closer than ever in the last couple of months and it's really painful when we're separated - we see each other every other weekend. Part of me is quite tempted to just move to be with him and take any job - postpone my career for another 18 months or so. Is this crazy or something that would be worth doing for the sake of our relationship? I'm so worried that the distance thing will get the better of us and we'll end up splitting up, but job prospects aren't great where he is and I'm not the sort of girl who'd just move somewhere for a guy. Thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 February 2010):
Right now, given all the circumstances with jobs and money in general, it is safer to continue with your work. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be then you will overcome the distance with a lot of work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): no, don't be such a wimp. you don't want to rely on a man for happiness. career always comes first.
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