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writes:I am a 39 year old 'male ' and have never had sex, not even a kiss!I was very,very,very,very, shy when I was growing up. I could not dare go near a girl!!!! One day when I was off ill form school , age 14-15, I wondered what it was like to be female. So I put on some of my mum things and really liked it. I was so much fun! I wished I had been born a girl. It seemed so much more fun and I felt more at peace with my slef. No need to put on an act. I hate beer and football and all the other so called male things. So over the years this is what I have done behind closed doors, john turns into Lisa for a few fun hours. I wonder that if I had had sex with a girl when I was 15-16 would I still have become a cross dresser ???? Should I one day try and have sex with a women? To see if it will stop these feelings?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): I am very ashamed of being a cross dresser. :(
I sometimes think it would better to have a sex change, but then what if I found being a woman full time was just as bad as being a man full time.
Can I ask women what are the bad points of being female??
Does the grass allways look greener on the other hill!!!!
lisa ( john )
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reader, inhibited +, writes (15 June 2011):
 Do you think overall if you could accept who you are and be open about things and be able to dress and act how you wanted openly you'd be happier?
If someone had a magic wand and you could be a woman and thus perceived to be female so your tastes fell in line with the accepted gender roles and you'd be "normal" would you go for it?
If the answer is yes then I think you should evaluate that. Just because you'd like to have sex with a woman in male mode doesn't make you a man anymore than wanting to have sex with guys as a woman makes you female.
It's all about how you feel inside and what would make you happiest but you absolutly HAVE to care less what people think and you HAVE to accept yourself.
I see great inequality in gender roles today. Women can be rather masculine and no one bats an eyelid whereas men who act or like effeminate things can very quickly find themselves ridiculed. I'm broad and tall and deep voiced and simple things like the pink iPhone cover on the back of this iPhone I've had to explain to people of occasion but sod it I love the pink it's like the fruit that's been forbidden for 29 years why deny myself?
I honestly wish you the very best and the offer is there if you'd like to private message me.
Be true to yourself and not to what others expect of you I guess is what I am saying. Here is the link to my thread if that helps you at all:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/gender-dysmorphic-at-29-and-i-dont-know.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): I dress when I am horny and somtimes undress after I have come. However I allso dress and act effeminatly for two to three hours a day to feel better without sex being involved! And sometimes I think about having a womens body and having sex with a man!!!!! The last few years this his turned me on the most !!!! But when I am not dressed I sometimes think about having sex with women as a man!
Lisa {john}
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reader, Bjondo  +, writes (15 June 2011):
Having sex with a women isnt just simply going to fix this if you dont like what you are doing then you have to be strict with yourself and also remove the temptaion (like removing womens clothing from you house and room ect.) But dont have sex with a women just to see if that will change things have you ever thought maybe women just werent meant for you?
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reader, Newbie31 +, writes (15 June 2011):
 Are you ashamed of being a crossdresser? If that's who you are having sex won't change you. Embrace yourself and feel confident, be proud that you were brave enough to find out who you are and what you enjoy doing. If you are still having doubts, I doubt that meaningless sex with a woman would make you want to stop dressing like one. I would say be true to who you are and what makes you happy.
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reader, inhibited +, writes (15 June 2011):
I think you need to talk to someone about how you feel. If you repress your feelings and actions because you feel ashamed then you will never be happy. I have just taken the decision to transition. I've told some of my immediate family and I feel so much better now a path is chosen and the possibility to truly express myself seems possible, I am 29. If you have a femanine side that has to be expressed then I don't think that having sex with a woman or a little green alien for that matter will change that side of you or "straighten" you out. You are what you are and a vital part of being happy is accepting yourself.Incidentally do you only dress when you're horny and do you typically undress after you are relieved? Do you dress or act effeminatly to feel better without sex being involved?Feel free to private message me I'd like to help.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (15 June 2011):
 hmmmm.... hmmmmmm..... hmmmm...... Well its worth a shot.
You might be surprised women arent so bad yah they nag and whine and have predictable moodswings but there often very loving and soft and smell good and some can even cook halfway decent....
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