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writes:Hi everyone. I am mulling over an issue and need some direction from the Aunts and Uncles. I'm a MM who fell into an emotional affair with a co-worker a few years back. Prior to that, we had known each other for years with no issues. Just acquaintances at work. Then, the perfect storm hit and the next thing I knew I was in the quicksand. At first, everything was great. That infatuation high is quite the drug. Then the realization hit that maybe this wasn't the right thing to be doing, and we both figured out at varying times that it needed to end. Getting in, however, was a lot easier than getting out, as I have learned. We both struggled to get free of the very intense emotional bond we had created between us and, in the process, hurt each other emotionally. Last year I went cold turkey no contact and really started to focus on my marriage, which has improved dramatically as a result (who'd a thunk it?). I kept the no contact going for almost a full year. We recently started to chat briefly (nothing heavy) occasionally at work, but we still maintain a respectful distance from each other. I feel a lot of guilt on so many levels over falling into this in the first place. Recently, that little voice inside keeps telling me that I should apologize to my AP for my involvement in what turned out to be a very bad idea. This person was (is) a friend and I wanted to express my regret for any hard feelings or trouble that the entanglement may have caused and accept blame for my part in this whole thing. Should I go there, or just let it go?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (20 February 2011):
 Why are you even chatting with her now? Personally I think you'd do well to drop ALL contact at this point and just let it go.
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