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writes:hiya. well me and my boyfriend were going out for almost 3 years. he recently told me he wanted to go on a break. he wanted space. i tried to give him space but it was so hard. we finally hung out to see if we can fix anything, but it only became worse. he broke up with me..i can't handle it. i want to be with him more than ever..i told him that i messed up but he should give this relationship another chance..idk what to do. should i just not call or txt for a week and see what happens..or keep trying to talk to him..i'm afraid if i dont talk to him for a week, he will move on and forget about me..i need advice..does he still love me..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): Hey. I think you should put him completely out of your mind or at least try to. If he needs space, give it to him because the last thing you want is to come across as a needy desperate clingy person. In my experience, I've found that people want what they cant have so stop offering yourself to him and let him FEEL what life is like without you or any prospect of ever being with you. Move on if you can or just chill out and heal yourself if not. The space will do you a lot of good too so don't contact him AT ALL. Let him go. If he comes back, at least you know that he REALLY wants to be with you, and its not cause he felt sorry for you. I know cause Im 21 and have asked my bf 4 space for over 2yrs but he cries and smothers me and threatens to kill himself so lo and behold we are still together but im unhappy as hell and flippen resentful coz im stuck with him 4eva. I'd cheat at the chance. You wouldn't wana be on the receiving end of that.
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reader, junebug +, writes (21 July 2008):
I totally understand what ur goin thru. Ive been in ur shoes. Just go with the flow. Go try 2 take ur mind off him.hang out with friends or something(of course no matter what u do he will be on ur mind) luckly my boyfriend came 2 his senses and came back 2 me but we had problems and was datin at the time round 3 years.we now are as happy was ever.but just try anything time comsuming 2 take ur mind off it and if he dont come back then at least u tried. Im sure he does love u,cuz u dont spend 3 yrs with some1 that u dont love,ya know? Maybe he just wants 2 make sure ur the 1. I wish u guys the best of luck! Hang in there girl! I really feel for u.
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