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writes:I turn 18 in a few months, and I am in love with my boyfriend, i would do anything for him. My parents don't want me to see him so for about the past year we have been secretly seeing each other, but its getting harder and harder as my parents don't let me leave the house or anything.My boyfriend is 3 years older than me, and my parents didn't even want to meet him they just told me I couldn't date him because of the age difference. I need advice in if I should move in with him when I turn 18.I believe he is the one i want to be with, but I'm worried that if i move out my parents will disown me and never want to talk to me again.I just don't know... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): I know how you feel. Parents over react a times when it comes to age difference. But if it was me, I'd do what I think is best. If you really love him then he's worth it. Your 18 in a few months. You'll be considered as an adult. It's your choice. And always make sure you have a really close friend you can always rely on. So when you can't turn to your parents for support you turn to him/her. If your parents really love you they'd want you to be happy. So yeah, that's basically it. If he really makes you happy then he's worth it. Go for it! :DI wish you good luck ^^
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 May 2010):
 Some parents are just too obstinate and irrational. You will have to decide what are your priorities in life.
One day you will have to leave your parents and live your own life.
Do you want to go for further education or do you want to live a family life ? Your call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): No, don't move in with him. When I was 17 I had a 24 year old bf and he was at a completely different stage in life than I was. Looking back I see that he had maturity issues and should've dated a woman his age, not a high school senior. Once you get into the real world you'll see why your parents acted this way.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 I don't quite understand- there must be something else behind your parent's refusal to let you date this guy,beyond a 3 years age difference. Maybe something they know and don't tell you- or something you don't tell us.
I mean, 21 is too old- and I don't think they want to see you with someone younger. So are you supposed to date only 18 or 19 y.o. guys ? It sounds pretty restrictive- and a tad bizarre. Are we sure that the problem is just and solely about age ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010): The reason my parents our so against us being together is because of age. They wont even meet him, they have no idea who he is.All they know is his name, and nothing else. I've tried talking to them about at least meeting him and then making the judgement about letting me date him, but they wont listen instead they dont let me leave the house or do anything. I wish they would meet him, but they wont, and its killing me because I most of the time do what my parents ask, but I am in love with him, and would do anything for him.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (25 May 2010):
 This is one of those really tough life choice things and I'm sure it won't be your last.
Let us look at the facts you've given here: You're 18 in a few months. You're legal after 18. You're a cognizant adult, responsible for yourself in all manners. The choice is your's to make.
That being said, with the freedom to make your own choices comes the consequences of those choices. If your parents disapprove of your b/f sight unseen that may only worsen the effects of you moving out and in with him. If they disown you for it, then that is their choice. I'm not saying it's right but they do have a right to make that call.
THINK about what you're doing before taking the leap. Do you know why you're parents are set against this guy? Could it be that you're 17 *now* and they fear the consequences that could come about in you seeing a guy who is 20/21? Have you considered that their disapproval may be rooted in experience that you don't yet have? THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU'RE DOING BEFORE DOING IT. Just think it through.
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