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writes:Hey, well i just turned 18, also iv never had sex and the most iv done was making out. My boyfriend is alot more experience though becuase he has had sex and messed around before. We do sext though (not pictures but stories) and im ok at it but not that good. Could that be becuase iv never done that "stuff" in real life before? or will i always just be ok at it? Also were going to try phone sex, me masterbaiting well he listens (sorry if thats to much info)how do i not be so self conscious well im doing? Is there a wrong way to sound or a wrong thing to do? THanks for any help.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 May 2010):
 First things first - don't do anything you're not comfortable with! Also, just because this guy has a bit more experience means absolutely nothing.
bunnytee is also right - make sure nothing can be saved, like pictures and texts.
All you have to do on the phone with him is voice your desires, what you want to try, what you love it when he does. You don't have to worry about terminology. It's all about letting him hear your desire for him. Let him hear what you'll let him do to you when he sees you, and let your imagination run wild. You don't have to worry about sounding trashy. Some people like swearing up a storm, and others sound like they come out of a Harlequin romance novel.
I have a trick that'll help you start out big time with zero experience. Just whisper to him "What do you want to do to my body?" and he'll answer. It's important to WHISPER. Then when he starts talking, give him encouragement, and it's easy to. If he mentions wanting to do something to you, just imagine him doing it to me and tell him in your softest voice that you want him to do it to you so badly. You will drive him absolutely crazy without having to think up things to say. As the conversation heats up, just take some ideas as you both warm up and don't worry a bit about sounding weird. It's all in the imagination! Also, you can ask him where his hands are as he's talking to you, and pretend it's your tongue or the tip of your lips running slowly down the length of his....you get the idea.
Trust me, with little effort on your part, you will turn him into a quivering bowl of jelly. :)
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (25 May 2010):
 I think it is only natural to be self-conscious about sharing such a personal thing over the phone with anyone. I don't think endeavoring to be good at phone sex, sexting, cybering is really a good use of your time, energy or natural talent, however.
If it is what you choose to do, my suggestions are to make sure it's staying between you and he ONLY. We all know how those pix, texts and often phone recordings have a way of escaping and going viral. Do you really want to discover yourself on youtube: a soundfile with your name all over it, masturbating for the world to hear? Think about it before you do it, missy. If you break up with this guy down the road somewhere, do you think he'll just throw it out and not play it for his buddies-or your's- to have a good laugh about? Theses are a few good reasons to be self-conscious about it.
Be smart. RESPECT YOURSELF.
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