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writes:It will be 6 months since my boyfriend and I seperated after 5 years together. The last 2 years had been complicated as we moved to different ends of the country for work and personal reasons but always with the intention that this arrangement was only to be short term. This worked for us both as we spoke daily about how our day had been and what the other was up to. But I guess after a while of living what seemed, seperate lives, that's when the doubts set in. To cut a long story short we split because he wanted to do different things that I felt at the time I wasn't able to do, probably because my confidence in our relationship lasting was so low. 6 months later I feel, knowing that we both stopped making the effort, I want us to try again. He knows how I feel but isn't sure if it's what he wants! I have also since found out that he has met somebody else online who he has regular conversations with and has told he loves.I guess after all that's said and done should I accept that I have loved and lost and move on or try and win him back?
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Blimey he did'nt waste much time finding a replacement did he? How can you love someone online through conversations? its not possible unless you have actually dated the person a long while. I am so sorry he has let you down, you will be wasting time trying to get him back, it look as if he has moved on. 5 years is a long time being sharing your life with someone, only to find he has found pastures new.
Forget him, Yes I know its difficult easily said than done, but if this guy had a shred of decency, he would have bided his time and accessed the situation with you before going onto the next person. In time the wounds will heal and you will find someone who will love you, please don't despair.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 If you can't be together, what's the point really. Everyone needs to be loved and feel loved. Why deny him or yourself the opportunity to love, live life and be happy? Let him go, stay in touch if you can as friends, and maybe one day you can be together again OR you could move to where he is, if that's what you both want.
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