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writes:So I am a freshman in college with a girlfriend who is a junior in high school but only one year younger than me. We have been dating for about 7 months and love each other. The only problem is lately I have been feeling skeptical as to whether it is healthy to be in a relationship like this when we only see each other on breaks and are 5 and a half hours away. I still participate in the same exact opportunities and events that all my friends do besides the hooking up with other girls but I just sometimes feel as though as much as I would hate to do so I should move on even though I love her. Does anyone have any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): LDR's are pretty much impossible, especially at your age.
It's exceptionally tough on people because you don't get to see each other or have any kind of physical intimacy and really, what's a relationship without enough physical intimacy?
Even people who have been together years struggle with LDR's they take too much trust and too much work to maintain for very little time spent together. You see close contact is an essential part of any relationship, it really is the best way to bond and the best way to show love and affection. Without that all you have is words and words are never enough.
I always advise my friends to break up in those circumstances, it's the best way. Now I don't by any means mean move on or they have to start dating others, or that they have to break off contact. But I find that the only way relationships like that ever work out is when they officially become single for the duration of their time apart. Most of the time people moved on and got with other people depending on the duration of this time. But others actually never got with anyone else and started up again when they got geographically close again.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 How much do you love her? Enough to wait until a better time?
I suppose if you are having doubts, it would be better for you to break up with her and move on, just in case you are tempted to engage in hooking up with other girls. It would remove the possibility of actually betraying her in some way.
I hope that helps.
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