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writes:Hi Aunts, I've just come out of a 6 year relationship. My ex broke it off because he said he needed some space to think about where his life is headed and for some independence. I accept this and understand as we were together for a long time and we both value our space and need for personal growth, our relationship was intense from the beginning and maybe time apart will do us some good. However I view this break as something to strengthen our relationship with a view to getting back together in the future but I think he wants to end it for good. Now Im stuck in this situation where I don't know if I should move on and date because maybe I'll lose him for good or if I hang around waiting I might be bitterly disapointed. I feel so alone because he was my best friend and all my friends say is to go out and hook up with other people Im worried if I do this he will hate me forever. Any advice would be great x S
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2012): I say go out and seek new friends, but just that, FRIENDS. Work on yourself first, then look for that special someone, and heck, maybe he will be ready by then, if not move on. Just be patient, and keep your mind open & free! Do it for yourself.
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (14 January 2012):
If the reason you broke up is because he needs space, then yes. Needing space generally means trying without you, and if it does`nt work out, then he wants you to be there to fall back on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2012): don't hurry yourself like this. ur bf has just come out of a 6 years relationship and u, too. u see that point of getting back so why don't you keep up with that? You should tell him i'm not only give you space, i give you time and everything you need if i could. i'm heading to see the world for a month. give me your answer when i get back. if it's a yes, i would love to be your soul mate again but if it's a no, i will step back, remember all the good things we have done together and wish you the best.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (14 January 2012):
 Definitely move on. Losing you permanently was the risk your ex was willing to take in securing his own freedom.
Why not enjoy your new found freedom? You're a single woman with your whole life ahead of you. It is possible that you and he will reunite one day, slim as it may be, but if it does happen it would be all the better if you had some new stories of your own to tell.
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