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writes:My boyfriend with whom I was in a long distance relationship with broke up with me last night. He doesn't know what he wants to do right now. He was torn because he wanted to stay friends but I didn't want that because it would probably be too hard on me. He said once he gets out of this depression we might be able to get back together but it could be anywhere from one week to 6 months, he doesn't know. I told him I wasn't waiting while he makes up his mind because that's not fair to me and he said it wasn't about me. Our relationship lasted for one year and 3 months. We lived together for 8 months and I feel so lost without him. I miss talking to him and hearing his voice. I've been crying all day. It's hard enough having not seen him for a bit more than one month now. These were our last few words to each other on Facebook:MeI'm sorry it had to be this way but I'm not waiting around for somebody who doesn't know if they have feelings for me or not. I hope you get the help you need and find your golden path in life because I know you can do it (his name). You're stronger than you think you are. Love you always, (my name).HimAs am I. It literally kills me. I just don't know to shake this feeling. Thank you for the kind words. Our paths will cross again. I'm sure of it. Love you forevermore (my name)
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (4 August 2011):
 It's hard and a shock. Well, he has obviously left the door open to come back. At this time, I would leave out communication. Give him the time and space he needs. I do believe he will be in contact because of the way things have ended. Let him deal with things his end and sort himself. Don't despair. I believe he will be in touch. Please send us all a follow up if anything new happens. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): Hi. Hes probably feeling a bit down and lonely and thinks if he breaks up with you it will fix things. Being apart is hard on any relationship. It can be lonely and frustrating. All his pals will be dating, going out as couples ect. And then there is him. Sitting in front of the laptop or on his cell phone, conducting his love life. It can be very bleak at times. I would leave things as they are, get busy and give him a week or so. He will be in touch again.
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reader, KerryM545 +, writes (4 August 2011):
I want you to know you are not the only one! I too was in a long distance relationshp which lasted 3 years. I felt this was the man of my dreams and we talked about marriage,kids,where we would live,etc. When things ended with us I felt like it was the end of the world and I would never be able to get over him. The thought of him with another woman or me with another man felt wrong and I was depressed and cried for days straight. At the moment your feeling lonely,upset and vulnerable and although you may not think it, IT WILL GET BETTER!!! I promise you it will!! You need to stay strong and think of the positives. It may be a learning curve for you for the future and positiveness will come from this! Time is a healer!! If its meant to be it will come back to you, but for now the main thing you should do is talk to friends and family and keep yourself occupied! You will be amazed at how well you will find yourself coping with things! When you feel at your weakest I want you to remember, it will get better!! :) I wish you all the best and I know you will get through this...If it helps i recently met my ex and we talked about the past and how we where and he told me he still loved me and asked to get back,and I knew I wasnt in love with him anymore! I remember the good times and we are still friends, but in time I got over him and I have never been happier in my life! :)
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