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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have a beautiful friend who is troubled and has been in drug rehab in a country outside of my own. We keep in touch as friends. Not more than that. He has several supporters just like me, who are also just friends, and who have been there for him supporting and encouraging him. And I admire how hard he has tried to rid himself of illegal drugs. He has been doing so well. And things have been looking up for him. And he has been sounding confident and has been doing everything to get his life back on track. His family supports are close to zero, mainly because he turned his back on them when they refused to give up drugs. One member of his family has already died from an overdose. You might say that all of his supporters do not understand, as none of us has ever used illiegal drugs. But we know each other and we all love him to bits and we all want to support him when he asks for support to avoid going back to illegal drugs. He's even made comment that he's safe talking to me as I will never be able to help him get illegal drugs, see as he is now in a different country to me. So things have been going well for quite a while now. And he has made friends with people who are not into the illegal drugs. From time to time I talk to him, to say hello. But he has revealed today that he is back using the illegal drugs again and back with his old girl friend, who uses drugs. Previously he broke with her when she refused to give up drugs at the time he went into Rehab. I can only assume the bonds and memories of taking illegal bonds together have proved too powerful.It has made me feel so powerless. His girl friend was rude and gloating to me, as she knows I am only a friend, not a love interest, but she sees me as a big threat, since I am one of several friends who have supported him and encouraged him to not use illegal drugs.I think all I can do now is step back and wait and hope he sees sense. But do any others on this site know what has helped (for a person who is just a supporter of the other party) to endure the waiting time, hoping he will see sense and reach out again to get over doing what he wants to keep doing at the moment. What else can I do in this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): There's not an awful lot you *can* do apart from hoping and praying that he'll find the strength to get himself back on track as soon as possible, and contuining to offer your love and support from afar. It's terribly misfortunate that he got back with his old girlfriend; she's still on the destructive path which he's been battling to get off for so long, and meeting her has dragged him right back to square one. No matter how much you and his other honest supporters want to save him though, you know he's the only one who has the power to change his ways. Be strong for him, reassure him he isn't alone, remind him it doesn't have to be like this. For his sake (and yours, as his good friend) I hope it all works out for the best. Good luck and take care x
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