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writes:Please help - I was dumped over 8 months ago by a man I was head over heels in love with. I was devastated. I was so so down. I met someone else very quickly, who feel head over heels in love with me, and made me feel great, wanted and appreciated. I really care about this man and have started to fall for him, I can picture myself being happy with him forever. I have been with my new man for 7 months.Recently my ex got in touch and has been asking me how I am, if I have met anyone, and to tell me he is going off travelling, he wants to see me before he goes.Now I feel really confused as I really want to meet him.I know it sounds awful, but I do want to meet him and in a way show him what he is missing now. However, I know that I loved him so much that I will probably end up in bed with him.I am analysing the situation and I wonder if I really should be with my current boyfriend if clearly I still have an attraction to my ex?I dont want to hurt my boyfriend, but also dont want to pass up an opportunity with my ex.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): Wow! I am in almost the same situation! For me, what I've decided to do is to tell the guy I am currently dating that the ex and I are meeting so that way I am forced to be more aware of my actions and there is no hiding anything. Also, I am going to lunch with him. If he really wants to just see you then a public outing or meal should be fine. If he just wants to hook up then you ruined what you have just so you could have sex with your ex one more time. But if you don't have real feelings for your new boyfriend and will always be tempted, then maybe he is just a very nice distraction. Put yourself in his shoes, and see how you'd want your boyfriend to behave in this situation.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (9 March 2009):
 No harm in seeing him. Tell your boyfriend about it. Then meet up with your ex - but you bring your b/f along too. And if you are really in love with your b/f, you probably cannot take your hands off him anyways .. small gestures, like always touching each other however briefly. Your ex will surely notice that :-)
So, you get to see your ex, and he got to see your lovely b/f, and you got to show him how happy you are! And you don't get yourself in trouble either! Problem solved!
Have fun!
Cat
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Why ruin what you have with your boyfriend, why hurt him? Ex's are ex's for a reason and they should stay in the past. Dont risk what you have for something you have already had and lost
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (9 March 2009):
 If you are happy enough in your current relationship and he treats you how you deserve, why would you want to mess that up and go see your ex which dumped you? I think you should leave well enough alone and pass up the opportunity to go see your ex. If he is going away, nothing would come out of it anyways except for hurt and regret. Your ex probably don't really care too much about you if he has waited this long to get in contact with you. Just do what you think is right, but don't go and hurt your boyfriend. He don't deserve it and if you decide to go see the ex and something happens, you definitely don't deserve your boyfriend.
Good Luck! I hope you make a wise decision on this:)
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