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writes:Hi.I am 20 years old and I am in love with a guy who is 20 years older than me.he was married twice before and has 2 kids from his first marriage. we totaly understand eachother and have no problems in our relationship. he makes me really happy and we are totaly in love.I have known him for 4 years and now he has asked me to marry him.I just wanna know how much the age difference matters and whether marryng him is the right thing to do!please help me!Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Dear Anonymous,
There is only one thing to consider; HIS KIDS!
They will forever be in his life and so will his ex-wife through the kids, so altough you two are very happy, think of the affect of those factors on you. Will you be able to handle it.
Also, it may be important for you to know the reasons for divorce. Is it because he wanted someone younger in age (of so, that may also happen to you down the road)
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Dear anonymous
i honestly think that age DOESNT matter at all its just age..we are all the same age in heart.and we all want to find love.it doesnt matter if his twice your age..just make sure that your heart wants him not your mind
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): thanks sooooooooo much you guys. you have helped me alot. but as one of you mentioned im scared that if he reaches 50's and 60's he wont be the same. he disagrees with that and tells me that its not gunna happen.
also my family are giving me such hard time, tellin me i deserve alot better than him....
i sometimes wonder what if i do? what if i deserve better than him and there is someone out there who will be better than him...but i cant fool myself he is everything i ever wanted in a man except his age!!!
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 In your case i don't see problems, because you like each other and understand each other so much. You don't have to worry about that. I'm just concerned about one thing. You're still so young, do you really think you're not too young to get married (anyone not just your older guy) at all? Beleive me, i'm young too and i can't imagine myself married at 20. I think you need a bit more time for enjoying younth. If you're doing with your guy too, then it's ok. Think about that. BIf you think it's the right time for get married, then do that.
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reader, agony aunt floss +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Dear anonymous,
If you feel the way you say you do about this man then thats all that matters, your family and friends may disagree with the idea but its your life and if he makes you happy then im sure they'll understand, my mums 10yrs older than my dad and they seem perfectly happy after 23yrs of marriage, so i dont see why you shouldn't.
.Agony Aunt Floss.
(p.s. if all go's to plan and you get hitched congrats)
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reader, lost and lonely  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Hi, you know if your heart and soul is in love with this man , you need to follow that path, for this may be the right path for you. since he has asked you to marry him, it really must be love on his half, I dont think that age is anything but a number in our lives, to show how old we have become, If two people are truly happy and can understand each other and have a relationship that brings honesty and happiness to each other, and if you both are compatable with one another, dont let a number come between what two hearts feel for each other, If there are worries of what you think others may think , look at it this way its your life and future not there. If I were you I would marry him. and be happy for doing so. Just understand that your age and his is no ones business but the two of yours, and because he is more stable in life he can give you the world, so grab on to what makes you happy,,,, Good Luck..
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reader, agony aunt floss +, writes (29 October 2008):
Dear anonymous,
If you feel the way you say you do about this man then thats all that matters, your family and friends may disagree with the idea but its your life and if he makes you happy then im sure they'll understand, my mums 10yrs older than my dad and they seem perfectly happy after 23yrs of marriage, so i dont see why you shouldn't.
.Agony Aunt Floss.
(p.s. if all go's to plan and you get hitched congrats)
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