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writes:I'm 13 years of age. And I got this kind of problem. I really like this girl (best friend, let's name her meg not really her name tho lol) so I like meg. I've known her for around about 6 years and I want to just hold her close to me you know. So there's this thing not long ago-- we made this thing ok where we were trying to convince this girl that me and meg were together lol. it's probably nothing lol but I loved every moment of it holding her close, holding her hand, I absolutely loved it. She probably thought that it was all a joke but I thought it was great. I find it really hard being around her lately--I don't want to give off signals, you know, I don't want to ruin the friendship that we have but every time I see her my heart just skips a beat and I get butterflies. I wish there was a way I could like switch off these feeling s but I guess it's not as easy as that is it ! So I was wondering if anyone could like tell me if I should give off signals and if she withdraws away from me then I know she doesnt like women. Or if I should enjoy being close to her right now as a friend?
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reader, llifton  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 i actually have to respectfully disagree with the above advice about being too young to know your sexuality. my experience was pratically the same as yours, except i was 15, only two years age difference. i had this female friend who i would hold hands with, cuddle with, etc. i can honestly say i fell madly in love with this girl - butterflies and heart flutters and everything. and she was my first puppy love. but you sound like you are more self-aware than i was. see, i didn't understand that i loved her. it was too confusing to me. i still tried to date men all the way up to the age of 20 before i realized i liked women and have never gone back. props to you for being so young and so self-aware. my advice to you is that you shouldn't make a move on her, rather do your best to try and maintain your friendship. most people at that age aren't so self-aware of who they are. you may just freak her out, even if she feels the same as you. best of luck!
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (5 April 2011):
 13 is very young, are you even sure you like girls like that? I remember when I was 13, I wasn't interested in any boys, so I was like "what the hell?!? Am I gay?" It wasn't until I matured a bit and got into high school that I got my first real crush and knew for a fact I wasn't a lesbian. My advice is to just stay friends with her, wait until you both grow up. Enjoy being a kid, I never listened to my parents when they told me, but it's true...when you grow up you will wish you're a kid again. Don't try to grow up so fast.
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