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writes:I have allowed my boyfriend who is 42 move in with me. He has lived in my home FREE for almost 6 mths. We have been dating 9 mths. He had financial problems so that was the only reason I let him move in. I thought by now he would be able to contribute some money but still hasn't. His daughter who is 19 got kicked out of her place so he asked could she stay with us until they can get a place together. We agreed to them moving out this weekend because I told him I needed to know how long she and he would be here. Well now it's going to be may 1st before he can get out. She has been here for a little over a week and keep in mind he's not paying for anything at my home. I also have a young teenage boy living with me. Well I found out today she has been meeting a much older man who she met online at night out on the street. she says she is going for a walk. This upset me because she is putting me and my son in danger! And since he is suppose to move out next weekend I will be alone. I told him I could not have this and she needed to get out TODAY! He then turns it around and makes me feel like I am the one in the wrong for feeling this way. He thinks I should help his daughter. Well I have been nice and gave her a place for the past week and a half so I feel like I have been nice. Now we have this BIG issue. we were getting along fine until his daughters issues came up. Do you think I am wrong? What should I do? Should I call it quits? I am tired of people taking advantage of me!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 You only know this guy for 3 months and you made the mistake of allowing him into your house.
After 6 months , your problem is compounded by his daughter's presence. There is too much burden being put on your shoulders.
You could have avoided all this if you had stopped seeing that man because he was not suitable material .
If you love the man ,you will have to help her daughter too.
If you think that you had enough of this man and his daughter,you better call it quits.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 April 2010):
If you accept him, you will have to accept the fact his daughter exists and he will do what he can to help her, in the same way that is this was the other way around and you needed his help, you'd expect him to at least assist with your son. If you insist on her leaving, you risk this relationship. If you can't accept her, then call it quits now.
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