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writes:my husband got a job overseas and things have been okay. I confronted him about an issue involving his ex, and we got through that. things were good, he was sweet, happy, and loving when we spoke, all of sudden it stopped. when I explained how empty his feelings were towards me, he did not see anything wrong. He feels that I am wanting out, and I am always complaining. his feelings have become more and more empty. he has no enthusiam about coming home for a visit. he does not care what we(family)does while he is here. When I asked asked what about us alone, he says "whatever you want, doesn't matter to me". Am I kidding myself? Is our relationship dying or is it over? I love him, but I really think he is just going with the flow. please help.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 You should not depend on him for your happiness.You need to seek your own happiness and when he see's you are happy , it will rub it on him.
To be happy , you need to think positive always and do those things that you like to do.
When you find that you have accomplished what you set out to do , you will find a measure of satisfaction and contentment. That will make you feel good.
Develop a positive attitude towards life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010): Can we some how reduced the number of ex that people ( men and women both ) have in the life? i guess it will remove all the problems in our life?
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reader, sad latina +, writes (25 April 2010):
sad latina is verified as being by the original poster of the question we have been married 15 years going on 16, we have 1 child (in thier teens) they have an adult child. the issue with ex was she was given the impression that things were bad with us, and he realized that he was wrong for doing that. I called him out on it when finally put it together. everything was fine after that, then when returning from a trip to florida, his tone and attitude change. He did not seem concerned about things, he is stressed due to the job, but he let me know that we are fine, and he loves me. He is not looking for an out, but his whole persona says different. Nothing I seem to say matters, he does not sound thrilled when we talk, and he kinda treats me like a "friend". His family says its the seperation, and where he is at and that he misses us, I should not read too much into it, but I am sad, and cry almost everyday. I don't feel exactly special, or wanted. Im excited to see him soon, but he seems like its another day. since he works so much there, he says that he won't know what to do when he is here? I don't get it anymore, I don't know what I am doing wrong, I don't know if he will ever sound happy with me. I don't know if any of this is worth it. I just don't know.
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reader, Quarterback +, writes (24 April 2010):
I don't want to implicate all women, but after over seven decades on this earth and having lost the love of my life, I feel as though I have the experience and I can contribute some very interesting data. Women are shocked to find out that all men don't cheat on their wives. I never did. Here are a few things to make a marriage last that a woman can do.
Do not say things you will regret later.
Don't roll your eyes.
Don't sigh and give your mate the "Whatever"!!
Let him know he is number one.
Don't tell him about other men that you admire. Keep it to yourself. I can assure you, he doesn't want to hear it.
Try and do everything 50/50 but realize it is probably going to be more like 70/30 his way.
If he doesn't remember special occasions, remind him never to let it happen again. There is no excuse for it.
He can cook, wash dishes, clothes, and take care of the children, even if he works, and he should be glad to do it 50/50.
Get out and do something for yourself but in this day and time, do what you say you're going to do. If there is a change in plans, call and let him know. Consideration of you're mate goes a long way to having fun and building a solid foundation of trust.
Most of all - If you clean up, spruce up, tease the hair, chew mints, put on perfume, sexy bra and panties, before going to work, meeting, a school, return the favor in kind for your husband. Do it every day of your life. A woman that tries to impress others by doing the aforementioned things is a woman to be suspicious of all the time and for good reason. As with anything, there are exceptions but don't over do it to raise questions like "WHY"???
Treat your husband as you wish to be treated and remember who is number one in your life and in his, and you will have a half century of wedded bliss as I did. I do miss her and she was "A SPECIAL WOMAN"!!
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