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writes:I went out with this guy 3 years ago, the relationship ended pretty badly, but we perservered and stayed friends over the years, despite him going out with my best friend and the rest of my friends pretty much hating him.I'm don't have any real feelings for him any more but he wants to meet up and have sex next wednesday. I want to lose my virginity before i go to university but i'm not sure if this is the right way to go about it. Advice please?
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reader, Accarysin +, writes (8 April 2012):
Wait for the person you think is right! If you have no feelings or a relationship with this guy then this could be one of the biggest regrets of your life! Wait it out and someone who is perfect will come along.. Good luck hun xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): No. I think you should lose your virginity with someone special. Not someone who asks to meet up and have sex with you. You don't have to do it if your not ready.
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 i am afraid you will only give yourself regrets to look back on. the one that will loose will be you. it will be meaningless , and you will be the one hurting looking back. you only have that gift once to give away, why throw it away. you can give your virginity any time in your life that you choose, but you can only give it once. you can give it once , or throw it away once. you have to choose.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 April 2012):
 NO do not do it.
Please don't do it.
pretty please?
I have no problems with older teens having sex but I want them to do it in the confines of a loving relationship...
not to lose their virginity because they see it as an albatross around their necks.
WAIT for someone who is special.. then you won't even ASK...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 April 2012):
 You will regret this if you do it.
The first time really shouldn't be a "get her done!" moment with some tool from the past. Trust me when I say it's a really nice thing to SHARE with someone you truly care for.
And if you think sex won't be a little awkward after your first time, you are wrong. But.. when you have sex with someone you really care for the awkwardness is just fine and can even be a little helpful.
Don't do it.
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reader, Great or Good  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 Good luck, we only give you our opinions but all this won't really change who you are and what you want.I think you don't has to do sex with him, just wait until someone you loves comes in your life, there is no point of losing your virginity to someone you will also lose within the click of the finger.Stay out of trouble, and never make an appointment of having sex, it will happen at the right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012): I would not lose your virginity this way personally your first time is supposed to be special and you need to wait until you are in a proper relationship with someone who loves and respects you once you have lost your virginity there is no getting it back I would think very carefully about this good luck
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reader, N91 +, writes (6 April 2012):
 No!
Wait for someone special or you'll regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012): Don't lose your virginity to this guy, your first time should be a personal, intimate time with the person you're in love with and are in a long-term relationship with. Hell, sex should always be with someone you love. Meaningless sex that is based around mere lust sucks; wait for someone special.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 Why on earth is it important for you to lose your virginity on some sort of deadline? What makes you think that your university experience will be hindered by virginity?
Perhaps you don't value your first time just now. Perhaps you think all your friends have done it, and you're somehow left behind. All of that is nonsense.
Any girl your age can 'lose it' at a whim -- there are countless boys who will take care of your 'problem' at the slightest sign of interest from you. If you really think that having a penis penetrate you will do some good, well, finding one will take about a dozen minutes in any pub you care to visit.
Is that all you want to have? Do you really value yourself so poorly that you want the first guy with hormones? Is the fact of your virginity so awful that you can't face your friends, most of whom are lying about their sex lives anyway?
How about this. You make up a story about how you lost your virginity, so that you get your friends off your back. Then you wait for a guy who's actually worth it -- someone who makes your heart sing, makes your world rock. So that your first time isn't some quick, sweaty "get it over with", and is instead an OMG, Thank You God moment.
Think about it.
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (6 April 2012):
Starlights hit the nail on the head. Sex is much better with someone you love. I lost my virginity to someone i didnt love. The condom broke he gave me an std thank god it was treatable put me through hell then 4 months later tried to propose to me. He wouldnt even let me break up with him. I was seventeen. It was disasterous. And the sex wasnt meaningful to boot. Wait for someone that you love and that loves you back.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (6 April 2012):
 If you dont have any real feelings for this guy, dont sleep with him.
Sex is always special with someone you love and much better with someone you love!
Goodluck.
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