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writes:i am a white male who has been dating a black woman for about 2 years. i thought we had an excellent relationship until i over heard a conversation she was having with a group of black women at a party. they were asking her why she was with "that" white guy and they were discussing our sex life. my girlfriend said the only reason she was with a white man was she didn't like the thug lifestyle adopted by so many young black men and that she couldn't find one who would keep a job. when she was asked about the sex, she said it was ok, but she was dying to get a hold of a sexy brother and really get it on. she said if she could find a brother with a job and would treat her right, she would grab him. she said she would never have a baby with "that man" because a black men make much prettier babies. she even said she would be looking for someone to get her pregnant again a couple of years when she was better settled financially. she is in the final year of college for nursing. needless to say, i was humiliated, hurt and angry. i left the party because if i stayed i would have caused trouble there. since i am a professional boxer as well as a welder(pipeline and underwater, so i make really good money} i couldn't afford to get into trouble. she called me on the cell and asked where was i and how come i left the party and wanted to know how she would get home. i told her there were several sexy black men at the party she could have take her home and with whom she could really get it on like she wanted. she has been calling me and calling me, but i am not taking the calls. she really hurt me and i really took good care of her and her daughter. she keeps leaving messages saying she can explain. i told her it was over. she says i am to blame. i don't get that. should i let her back into my life or should i just move on. i don't need the drama. i am going to canada to do pipeline work and don't need this hanging over my head. she is insisting we can work it out and i just think she wants the money i give towards her apartment and her little girl's daycare. the child is not mine. she was 2 when i meet her mom. maybe it is a point of pride to me, but i was really hurt by what she said.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 well it's clear you have been sweet enough to take the s**t, and i don't think you should take it anymore...her saying all that at the party was very wrong, even though she knows that you love her so much, plus take care of her expenses. You are just wasting time here, go ahead with your job, you don't deserve this treatment at all!!good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): there is alot of girls out there only after money,but i dont believe for a second she meant what she said,i think it was she felt pressured and trying to maintain her status as black around her friends,she was just to proud to admit that she loved a white guy and felt if she did her friends would no longer see her as a sista,stupid i know but black people no matter where they are from or whom they marry still like to feel like they are part of the black community.i myself married my 3rd white husband and i am proud to stand beside him no matter where we are and will tell people who he is as i love him and he is what matters not being a sista,let her explain and then re asses the situation and then decide
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 June 2008):
 Looks like you hit the nail on the head. She likes the money. Go on your job in Canada and let her stew. Your hurt will diminish, thank God you didn't waste any more time on her.
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